My 17 year old son just asked to take my car to prom

White07z · 04-16-2014, 04:15 AM

I completely agree

jaedub · 04-16-2014, 04:49 AM

I remember asking my mom for her Porsche during my prom. She handed me her key without any hesitation. She trusted me and I made sure I didn't disappoint her.

I'd do the same for my child later on even if I had my dream car (Ferrari)

raymondo510 · 04-16-2014, 05:12 AM

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Originally Posted by enkei2k

Well...if it makes you feel any better, it's REALLY difficult to have sex in the Z, so at least it'll be clean of bodily fluids?

incorrect...

YzGyz · 04-16-2014, 05:45 AM

I don't have a kid but I probably would give my kid the keys. I would tell him once and once only how much it's worth, not just $$ wise but the work hours I had to pull to get her the way she is. Give him $40 for gas and send him on his way. If you can't trust your own kid then your in trouble. You have bigger things to worry about.

The speak before the key hand off would go something like, "You know this is my baby right? You know how much OT I had to do right? You know that handing you this key is like giving you 40k cash to flash around in public right? ect."

PedroVonSmith · 04-16-2014, 05:47 AM

I say let the kid have his day. But before he takes it, ask him to help you wash it and detail it. Use that time to express the trust you will put in him. Its more than just the car, its a symbol of trust. My step-dad, the man who raised me let me take his 1967 Firebird to my prom. I grew up worshiping that car. First time driving it was on the way to pick up my date for the prom. I will never forget it. Looking back I have no idea why he let me take those keys. But I drove that car like it was a grandma car. I knew what it meant to him.

Ubetit · 04-16-2014, 07:57 AM

If you raised him right and he's been a good kid, at some point you need to trust the job you did.

I did and had things my friends in high school couldn't because I had a nice high paying job. Because I was responsible with my job and school, my career military-man father gave me a lot of rope .... and I never hung myself.

wheee! · 04-16-2014, 08:33 AM

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Originally Posted by JWillis72

Apparently my wife and him had this conversation before I knew about it and she said he could take her Veloster Turbo if I said no. Then he showed my wife her dress and my wife said he not going anywhere with her and a back seat! He's a great kid but lets face nothing destroys a god man like a bad woman!

Lol at the fact my wife drives a Veloster turbo too...

ElVee · 04-16-2014, 09:05 AM

Only you know your own kid and situation.

For me, I agree with anyone who says:
1) prom comes maybe once, let him have a moment
2) at some point, we all need to improve our trust in children or friends/coworkers, and that will always mean moving out of our comfort level a bit. The end result could very well be a closer, better relationship.

He's 17, going to prom, and supposedly is a good kid. It's time to start treating him like he's about to enter the adult world.

ElVee · 04-16-2014, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by happydog

you should drive him there and be the designated driver just in case he drinks
that way there's no way he can get your car messed up

and you can watch the car to make sure it doesn't get dinged or keyed

win/win scenario. he gets a cool car to prom and you don't have to worry

Nothing says cool like being driven by your parents on a date!

TonyZ34 · 04-16-2014, 09:42 AM

Don't know how you're kids are but I've been an owner of my Z for over a year now with no accidents or tickets and I just turned 17. So if your kid is careful, go for it!

MadMan · 04-16-2014, 09:43 AM

+1 Vote for Cool Dad who has a kid he trusts.
I'm also the Owner of a 17yr. old & a Z

BeemaaZ · 04-16-2014, 10:00 AM

I never put so many "like" in one single thread like this one.

It might be too late to change your mind about letting your son takes the car to the prom.

What I would do if I were you is to let him drive the car with and without you on the passenger seat several times before the big night.

Are you going to tell him about the 4k rpm / 60 mph limiter? I am sure he will find out and think you don't really trust him.

mrthomr · 04-16-2014, 10:10 AM

I wonder how many other 17 yr old drivers will be on the road that night....hope they decide not to drink as well. I remember what I got into that night long ago....oh my oh my.

Mt Tam I am · 04-16-2014, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Ubetit

If you raised him right and he's been a good kid, at some point you need to trust the job you did.

I did and had things my friends in high school couldn't because I had a nice high paying job. Because I was responsible with my job and school, my career military-man father gave me a lot of rope .... and I never hung myself.

I did not have a high paying job, just a minimum wage job, but the rest applies to me too.

Reiterate your feelings and expectations to him regarding the car, and things should go well.

IDZRVIT · 04-16-2014, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by raymondo510

incorrect...

or it ain't true!

04-16-2014, 04:49 AM	#62 (permalink)
jaedub Track Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 906 Drives: 2010 Black 370Z MT Rep Power: 305	I remember asking my mom for her Porsche during my prom. She handed me her key without any hesitation. She trusted me and I made sure I didn't disappoint her. I'd do the same for my child later on even if I had my dream car (Ferrari) JWillis72 likes this.

04-16-2014, 05:47 AM	#65 (permalink)
PedroVonSmith Base Member Join Date: Oct 2013 Location: North Las Vegas Posts: 108 Drives: 2012 370Z 6MT Rep Power: 12	I say let the kid have his day. But before he takes it, ask him to help you wash it and detail it. Use that time to express the trust you will put in him. Its more than just the car, its a symbol of trust. My step-dad, the man who raised me let me take his 1967 Firebird to my prom. I grew up worshiping that car. First time driving it was on the way to pick up my date for the prom. I will never forget it. Looking back I have no idea why he let me take those keys. But I drove that car like it was a grandma car. I knew what it meant to him. BeemaaZ, P's_Z and White07z like this.

04-16-2014, 07:57 AM	#66 (permalink)
Ubetit Track Member Join Date: May 2012 Location: Ohio Posts: 527 Drives: the women lazy Rep Power: 14	If you raised him right and he's been a good kid, at some point you need to trust the job you did. I did and had things my friends in high school couldn't because I had a nice high paying job. Because I was responsible with my job and school, my career military-man father gave me a lot of rope .... and I never hung myself. Last edited by Ubetit; 04-16-2014 at 08:00 AM.

04-16-2014, 09:42 AM	#70 (permalink)
TonyZ34 Enthusiast Member Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: Dallas TX Age: 27 Posts: 283 Drives: 09 370Z S/T AT Rep Power: 12	Don't know how you're kids are but I've been an owner of my Z for over a year now with no accidents or tickets and I just turned 17. So if your kid is careful, go for it! __________________ Too much too list

04-16-2014, 09:43 AM	#71 (permalink)
MadMan Base Member Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: Madison, Ala. Posts: 91 Drives: 2013 370Z GM AT7 Rep Power: 12	+1 Vote for Cool Dad who has a kid he trusts. I'm also the Owner of a 17yr. old & a Z jdsto likes this. __________________ Bone Stock

04-16-2014, 04:15 AM	#61 (permalink)
White07z Base Member Join Date: Apr 2014 Location: USA Posts: 42 Drives: White Nissan 370z Rep Power: 11	I completely agree

04-16-2014, 05:45 AM	#64 (permalink)
YzGyz A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: Houston Posts: 1,449 Drives: 2010 Nismo Rep Power: 63	I don't have a kid but I probably would give my kid the keys. I would tell him once and once only how much it's worth, not just $$ wise but the work hours I had to pull to get her the way she is. Give him $40 for gas and send him on his way. If you can't trust your own kid then your in trouble. You have bigger things to worry about. The speak before the key hand off would go something like, "You know this is my baby right? You know how much OT I had to do right? You know that handing you this key is like giving you 40k cash to flash around in public right? ect."

04-16-2014, 09:05 AM	#68 (permalink)
ElVee Track Member Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: Iowa Posts: 750 Drives: 13 370z 7at t+s grey Rep Power: 16	Only you know your own kid and situation. For me, I agree with anyone who says: 1) prom comes maybe once, let him have a moment 2) at some point, we all need to improve our trust in children or friends/coworkers, and that will always mean moving out of our comfort level a bit. The end result could very well be a closer, better relationship. He's 17, going to prom, and supposedly is a good kid. It's time to start treating him like he's about to enter the adult world.

04-16-2014, 10:00 AM	#72 (permalink)
BeemaaZ A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Irvine, CA Posts: 2,594 Drives: 40thAE#472 Rep Power: 508	I never put so many "like" in one single thread like this one. It might be too late to change your mind about letting your son takes the car to the prom. What I would do if I were you is to let him drive the car with and without you on the passenger seat several times before the big night. Are you going to tell him about the 4k rpm / 60 mph limiter? I am sure he will find out and think you don't really trust him. 2xtreme1 likes this. __________________ SoCal 40th Meet Old & New Mods Steering Lock RECALL**** Own 40th 370Z? Get the build # and the Manuf. date here

04-16-2014, 10:10 AM	#73 (permalink)
mrthomr Base Member Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Morgantown, WV Posts: 217 Drives: 2010 Z Roadster Rep Power: 30	I wonder how many other 17 yr old drivers will be on the road that night....hope they decide not to drink as well. I remember what I got into that night long ago....oh my oh my.

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