What would you do? Need Advice

krnbbagadog

I picked up my 2011 Touring 370Z on tuesday.

As of right now i am deployed to iraq as of soldier and won't be home around november in this year.

My dad asked me for helping my big brother out for buying him used car. So i told dad i will help him but told him i am buying my vehicle so he can drive my car while im over here. because my dad was asking for $5K for used car so i said no i rather buy mine so he can drive and go work or school w/e

but here is the problem, Ever since my brother was learning how to drive manual first time in his life. he has been jerking the car. His gf knows how to drive manual and she told me that she used to drove Hyundai Tiburan? (with tunes up) so she is teaching him how to drive now (she's jerking quitebit when my brother told me)

My brother is not an aggresive driver. but at the same time this car is my first car and i am just getting worried if he gets into accident with my new baby. I will getting 10K on july and maybe i should spot him 2K to let him buy his car and put my car in garage?

Top of that i am paying for car payment every month $550 and his damn insurance also. I know you guys might think im being just retarded and being way too much good to him. Trust me I don't want to do it spending money for not my beneficial but sometime you gotta help your family out u kno?

I wrote too long so imma cut it right here.

What would you do?

Choice#1
On july when you get 10K spot him little money to help your brother out for buying his car and my car will be stored in the garage until i get back on november.

Choice#2
You are worrying way too much, Your brother is not aggresive driver he's 26 years old. Car will be same as now when you come back on november (he never had any accident that has been on his fault)

*I already told him I am not helping him out when i get out of the military. Told him straight up i got my life to enjoy with so won't be able to help him out.*

I really appreciate reading this!

krnbbagadog

Quick question,

Will my transmission will be like fuk up fuk up when i come back? friend of mine told me it will cost 2K for replacing transmission
Also brother's gf told me hes learning pretty fast.

iceman21_23

i learned how to drive manual trans with the Z although it took me a day to get the hang of it... its not terribly difficult to learn but from what I've read the Z is harder then alot of other cars to learn on.

ImportConvert

Time and time again I have watched family members sink other family members. I guess my advice is to either be successful and feel like a **** and look after your money and property, or let your brother do what he wants with it and feel good about yourself. Take into account I am not a big family type person, though.

Why doesn't your OLDER brother have his own ride?

Red flags here...

DJ-of-E

I think my first stick car I bought used, the damage I did required new clutch & flywheel and new driveshaft (RWD) after 20,000 miles. Transmission was still okay and car itself had 180,000 during that time.

What cars has he driven in before the 370z? Safe driver or not, the 370z has a lot of blind spots and needs someone with experience who knows how to navigate a car with limited vision. I've been driving sub $25k sport cars with very limited blind spots before, so I know how to handle a lot of upcoming surprises, but the 370z is probably the worst so far for me. Also notice some threads where people got dinged or hit on the move. They stated "I didn't see them coming" or "they didn't see me." Why couldn't they see to avoid such situations? It's all about experience and sometimes it takes a few wake up calls and maybe an accident to realize how much attention is needed to drive there weapons of mass sizes.

If he's use to something like a "Toyota Corolla" where he's more dependent of the rear view mirror, he will get into trouble if the car is being used as his daily driver. My little brother is a slow/careful driver, but had a few stressful/angry nights where in result of bone-headed accidents.

I have a younger brother, but my firm belief is he is damn well over 18, so he could just get a job and take care of himself. Hell, I went through surviving part-time to part-time while going to college w/ tuition and loans for 6 years until I got where I am today to get me this 370z with ease. I am not smart and spent many nights with 4 hours or less sleep to catch up with my class peers. I know he's family, but if he can't take care of himself during extremes, he or dad will be coming to you all the time. Sometimes the best gift you could do to your brother is to have him grow up and survive. With the U.S. economy and the direction of the all-might dollar, everyone must learn how to survive one way or another.

Besides, nothing wrong with a $3000 used Corolla.

hazzazi

i would go with choice #1, and have some peace of mind...

both both ways are fine...good luck with your decisions.

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ImportConvert

Some cars take a thrashing and work fine. Others, you look at them funny and they fall apart. Came off the line one after the other. There really is no way to tell.

USMCASA

being deployed as a Marine and leaving my motorcycle with family i can tell you that is a BIG mistake. best to keep everything calm at home and store your vehicles where they can't be used/damaged. everyone will be much happier if you do this now and when you get home. stay safe over there.

PapoZalsa

I would try to help, rather than given my brand new car to a family member after I have sweat my azz, thru hell and high water to buy a brand new car.

Being a Soldier is not easy, you earn your money the hard way especially in a Combat Zone.

You are doing your duty! Why he cannot hold his own end?

That happens to me all the time with family members, and I tell them get a J.O.B!

Sorry if I'm rude!

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ImportConvert

Not rude at all IMO. Our country is based too much on hand-outs, and a US Marine doing his job overseas and an older brother who can't even buy his own car mooching off of him pisses me off, and I'm not in the military and I don't have a brother. Just the principal of the matter.

Now if there is more to the story than what OP presented (owe's older brother money, etc.?) then I digress, but based on what I read, someone is overseas working while someone else is suckling on their hard earned cash.

kielbasa16

Im a big family guy myself, but I would still go with option 1. This way youre helping him out big time with 2k towards a used car, but thats the end of your expense. I dont think he will mess up the car's transmission learning to drive manual, it only takes a few days to learn enough, but a million other things can happen that may end up costing you more than 2k.

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bflosabre91

yeah, i like my family and all but i think you should just give a little money and let him get his own car. i wouldn't let them drive my z, especially considering you just got it and for the first year or whatever, he will end up driving your car much more than you have. if he gets mad, then screw it, no one should ever expect a person to let them drive a brand new 30 something thousand dollar car. whether your a family member, a friend or jeff gordon.

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red6spd

My head hurts after reading that lol... I would just try to help, I dont think giving your bro a brand new Z is a good idea. Even if he takes the best care of it its still going to have miles on it.

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kellyefields

there is no way in he11 that I would let someone drive my new car while I am overseas. Simply why would you want to come home to a used car, if that was the case you should have waited until your return and bought a used one. And he is not even paying for the insurance? you can only do so much for family. My 2 cents is "Use those bus tokens partner!"

elmz

I personally wouldn't mind letting my bro drive my car while I was overseas, as long as you trust him. In my case, my bro and I were both into cars and he takes as much care in his car as I do mine. But if your bro was someone who abused his things and showed a lack of respect for other people's property, then that's a easy one.