what if someone wants to drive your Z ??

felix0121 · 09-06-2016, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by cv129

For Felix's sake, glad that he is not a smoking hot female, otherwise she'll be drunk everyday for not saying no to "hey can I buy you a drink?"

I just want to avoid getting in trouble rather than to be involved in any stressful argument.

That's why I said I would keep silence in that situation..

JARblue · 09-06-2016, 11:21 PM

Don't let idiots stress you out. Life is too short and there are far too many.

Just politely tell them, "I'm sorry but I don't let anyone drive my car". If they ask again, just get in your car and leave. That is, if you are seriously concerned about the situation.

felix0121 · 09-06-2016, 11:34 PM

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Originally Posted by JARblue

Don't let idiots stress you out. Life is too short and there are far too many.

Just politely tell them, "I'm sorry but I don't let anyone drive my car". If they ask again, just get in your car and leave. That is, if you are seriously concerned about the situation.

Once I permitted a guy (he was a 'friend' but actually I didn't like that much) to drive my Z when he implied to want to drive mine. He was a guy who had bad temper, and also was selfish and stubborn that he never gives up what he wants until I say 'yes' to him.

And what happened was that.. some weeks later I got a ticket by mail to my home that he violated a special lane with my Z, (an express lane..?? Now I cannot remember exactly what it was.. it happened several years ago), and it took about one month for me to make him pay for that. And even after that payment it did not seem that he really sincerely reflected on himself.

So then I cut out our relationship. I felt bitter..

ChopsZ · 09-06-2016, 11:41 PM

Sounds to me someone needs to grow a pair and simply say "NO".

NISMO IX · 09-07-2016, 02:15 AM

NismoGhost57 · 09-07-2016, 02:45 AM

Only if the person will let you test drive their girlfriend/wife..

JARblue · 09-07-2016, 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by felix0121

He was a guy who had bad temper, and also was selfish and stubborn that he never gives up what he wants until I say 'yes' to him.

Do you really think anyone like this deserves your sympathy for denying their request? Tell them to

or remove yourself from the situation. Neither one is difficult.

JARblue · 09-07-2016, 09:09 AM

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Originally Posted by felix0121

Once I permitted a guy (he was a 'friend' but actually I didn't like that much) to drive my Z when he implied to want to drive mine.

I just re-read this. Are you saying you gave into implied peer pressure? Like he didn't even ask to drive your car directly and you still felt obligated to let him drive it?

If so, you just need to get over it. Don't let people push you around. You don't always have to be the nice guy.

Ghostvette · 09-07-2016, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by JARblue

I just re-read this. Are you saying you gave into implied peer pressure? Like he didn't even ask to drive your car directly and you still felt obligated to let him drive it?

If so, you just need to get over it. Don't let people push you around. You don't always have to be the nice guy.

Chuck33079 · 09-07-2016, 09:22 AM

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Originally Posted by felix0121

Hey, Chuck. Seriously, let me calm down myself first, and now I say that it is absolutely okay for me that you say any of your opinions freely in this forum.

For me what matters is your way to say a thing. Please say anything just in a right way. I got upset very much when I saw you used those insulting terms 'socially awkward BS' toward me.

Maybe it seems like you already forgot that, but now I'm still remembering a happening that last time on my another thread you kept showing sarcastic response even after I had apologized for any inconvenience sincerely to you. (at least I felt so even though it was not intended)

It drove me crazy at that time because I thought it was inappropriate, and today I got bursted based on that.

I'm now an US resident but I'm not a native American, I was not born here, what worse is that English is not my mother tongue (even though I'm trying hard to improve it by myself), and I'm from a different culture. If I do not know how to behave polite in this country, I do agree to that it is my own problem and I need to fix it up anyway.

I don't want to make any trouble. I want to believe you are a good guy in the real world, but we've never met each other and even on this Internet we can easily misunderstand each other's nuance or intention. I have always done my best to keep my manners here. I'm a human, not a machine that I do have my emotions too. I hope we do not hurt each other anymore.

About that saying 'no' - well.. in fact, personally I'm so afraid of those who get angry to me when rejected (it seems so unreasonable) or those who try to take advantage of me when I gently say 'no' to them. Some people that I had met in my life, they did not stop there even when I really said 'no' - rather they kept trying to pursuade me. It was so stressful. Therefore later I made my own decision that I'd better keep silence with my poker face and not give any response to them rather than having risk for any possible argument.

That was a story.. It's still a kind of dilemma to me. If I say 'no', a case might go worse. If I do not say anything, then it might be rude..

No worries, man. Here's the thing - you're both overthinking this and doing yourself a disservice by not responding. A simple, polite NO is all they're entitled to. Not an explanation or apology. If that doesn't convince them, a hearty "**** off" will solve the problem real quick. You don't owe them anything. Unless they pay your bills or let you put your **** in them, then they don't matter. If they no longer want to associate with you because you won't lend them your property (which you would be liable for any catastrophe regardless of them being behind the wheel) then you have removed a worthless person from your life. That's a positive outcome.

DeliriousClam · 09-07-2016, 10:12 AM

I just have to give them a blank stare with an eyebrow raised and they know it means no

Nismodean · 09-07-2016, 02:17 PM

Jesus Christ guys you all sound like a bunch of nut huggers contemplating the minute details of how to approach a simple question. There is less debate over the KKKlinton foundation/email scandal!
The question gets asked, do you trust them or not? Answer accordingly. There is no need for you to go all Plato/Socrates or creepy guy blank psycho stare.

DeliriousClam · 09-07-2016, 02:24 PM

Hey. The only reason I give the creepy psychopath stare is because I am a creepy psychopath.

CedzZ34 · 09-07-2016, 02:32 PM

Anybody that knows me well enough to ask to drive my car already knows I'm going to say no...

If you don't know me well enough to already know my answer, you probably have no business asking to begin with...

NISMO IX · 09-07-2016, 02:38 PM

09-06-2016, 11:21 PM	#47 (permalink)
JARblue A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Austin, TX Age: 43 Posts: 36,450 Drives: 11 Z34, 98 E36 M3 Rep Power: 2684440	Don't let idiots stress you out. Life is too short and there are far too many. Just politely tell them, "I'm sorry but I don't let anyone drive my car". If they ask again, just get in your car and leave. That is, if you are seriously concerned about the situation. felix0121 likes this. __________________ 2011 370Z 6MT Sport Gun Metallic \| ARC \| CJM \| Ecutek \| FI \| Fujimura \| R2C \| SPL \| Stillen \| TWM \| Z1 \| ZSpeed \|

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09-07-2016, 02:15 AM	#50 (permalink)
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09-07-2016, 02:45 AM	#51 (permalink)
NismoGhost57 Base Member Join Date: Jun 2016 Location: Utah Posts: 64 Drives: 17 Z06/Z07 Rep Power: 9	Only if the person will let you test drive their girlfriend/wife.. felix0121 likes this.

09-07-2016, 10:12 AM	#56 (permalink)
DeliriousClam A True Z Fanatic Join Date: May 2015 Location: NJ Age: 31 Posts: 3,758 Drives: 12 Base Sport Rep Power: 54272	I just have to give them a blank stare with an eyebrow raised and they know it means no __________________ Stillen, AAM, Shine Auto, Fujimora, Swift, EVO-R, Carbon Fiber Element, Nitrous Outlet MECP Advanced: CEA26671 Most of what I post here are artistic works of fiction and falsehood. Only a fool would take anything I post here as fact.

09-07-2016, 02:17 PM	#57 (permalink)
Nismodean Enthusiast Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Washington Posts: 313 Drives: 2009 RIP Now 2012 Rep Power: 15	Jesus Christ guys you all sound like a bunch of nut huggers contemplating the minute details of how to approach a simple question. There is less debate over the KKKlinton foundation/email scandal! The question gets asked, do you trust them or not? Answer accordingly. There is no need for you to go all Plato/Socrates or creepy guy blank psycho stare. __________________ The Truth, it hurts sometimes. FI LTH & FI CF CBE. This is a 370Z forum, if I want to fling poo at another brand of car and your feelings get hurt, then you're hanging out in the wrong forum (cry elsewhere).

09-07-2016, 02:24 PM	#58 (permalink)
DeliriousClam A True Z Fanatic Join Date: May 2015 Location: NJ Age: 31 Posts: 3,758 Drives: 12 Base Sport Rep Power: 54272	Hey. The only reason I give the creepy psychopath stare is because I am a creepy psychopath. Nismodean, JARblue, cv129 and 1 others like this. __________________ Stillen, AAM, Shine Auto, Fujimora, Swift, EVO-R, Carbon Fiber Element, Nitrous Outlet MECP Advanced: CEA26671 Most of what I post here are artistic works of fiction and falsehood. Only a fool would take anything I post here as fact.

09-07-2016, 02:32 PM	#59 (permalink)
CedzZ34 Base Member Join Date: Apr 2016 Location: Alabama Posts: 44 Drives: 2011 370z Rep Power: 9	Anybody that knows me well enough to ask to drive my car already knows I'm going to say no... If you don't know me well enough to already know my answer, you probably have no business asking to begin with...

09-07-2016, 02:38 PM	#60 (permalink)
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