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What is wrong with society?
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Unfortunately, the world is full of a-holes. I had similarly bad experiences with online dating, and gave up on it. Quote:
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I don't bother with dating sites. Plenty of a-holes pretending to be decent people.
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I don't bother with those kind of sites either. Good luck in your search!
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Wow.. What an @ss..
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Some guys feel if you are not there to tell them how awesome they are then you suck. He needs a mommy.
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I tired match a long time ago, i wasn't looking for a skinny rail but at least someone that took care of themselves. Every response i got was from 200+ lb women. I am sorry but if i am not attracted to you there can be no relationship, call me an ******* if you will.
That being said that guy is way out of line and an embarrassment to the firefighter profession. |
I used match.com when I lived in Tampa. Found a nice women who wanted me to buy her a nice wedding present. She wanted an airplane. I can't afford that. So she left.
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Dude's on roids. Little things sets him off.
Frost -- I just noticed. Lot's of oops spilled on Canada. Then the borders opened. |
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What a douche canoe...
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if you didn't like his profile, why didn't you just click next and move on to other guy? instead of sending him a judgmental message of going about how YOU don't like the profile blah blah blah. shouldn't have wasted your time doing that, that *******-ness is what makes him, him.
also, that profile message does not sounds like its written in angry tone at all. |
Honestly, his profile reeked of insecurity, and then you made him feel self conscious by giving him even a small bit of constructive criticism. Guy's a train wreck lol, so don't worry about his shallow response. You're above it.
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I didnt think his original profile sounded angry at all. He sounds like he is serious about wanting a relationship and no more single dates. What you wrote to him was condescending and pretty nosey.
His responses were out of line after that, but I think you stepped right into it honestly. |
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Couldn't have said it better myself. If you don't like someone's profile, move on. |
People's opinions tend to hurt others. Whatever he said obviously made an impact on you when it shouldn't have. Have to learn to take peoples opinion like a grain of salt. Plus, it goes both ways, ever thought maybe what you said hurt him in some way or form? Maybe that is why he came back at you with what he said?
Skinny or over weight, it seems like you aren't happy with yourself either way. Not happy when guys hit on you when you used to be skinny and not happy with how society treats you when you are not skinny? I am not trying to be an a-hole but maybe you are looking at the wrong place for a relationship. |
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Yeah. There's as many red flags with her as there are with him. |
If I was a female, I would love the attention I get from guys if I was hot. Shiet, I love the attention from females as a male. Not sure why anyone would hate it, only boosts your morale and makes you feel wanted.
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I wasn't being condescending or nosey. I was just trying to be helpful. People are on that site to find someone. It's not like I said for him to quit sounding like such a total ****. Guess I should just not bother and let people burn. It's stuff like that and comments like that which make the nice people not want to bother.
I love myself. Either way. Any way. That's it. I just think it's messed up to bring down someone just to make yourself feel better. I didn't at all take it personally. I know the dude was being a pissy little bitch. It happens. I just was annoyed how those very sentiments he expressed are what society says all the time about women. If they're not lined up in that perfect idea of how you think they should be, then they're not worth the dignity or respect. It's messed up. |
The only problem with his profile was your interpretation of it. You should have just moved on. Instead you decided to send a response that seems fairly snarky to the rest of the world. He was completely out of line in his response, but you never should have opened your mouth in the first place.
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Guess I just don't see how me being thoughtful and trying to help comes off as "snarky". It was a perfectly polite message.
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It's as "helpful" a response as his profile was "angry". As in, not at all. In the future, if you don't like someone's profile, click the back button and go on about your day.
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I mean really, what did you think that guy would say? "oh yea you're right Ill change my profile right now and start talking to you" I hate to be harsh but it sounds like you need a reality check. Guys dont like being told what to do or what to be. No one does. Especially not when its said in the very first sentence from someone you have never met before. It wasnt polite, polite would be like "hey, how are you?" |
I didn't think anything would come of it, and I didn't really want anything to come of it. I was literally just trying to be nice and bring to his attention something he may have not considered while writing it. I figured he'd take my suggestions into advisement and that would be it. That was my only purpose in sending the message as I thought I'd made clear through my word usage.
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Match.com should be renamed to DTF.com
Almost everyone I work with that is on that site hooks up for one night stands. |
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No good deed goes unpunished- the moral of this story. |
No matter what you look like, there will be people who are not attracted to you because of it. No matter what your personality, there will be people who are not attracted to you because of it. No matter what your _____, there will be people who are not attracted to you because of it. There is no one-size-fits-all.
The flip side of that coin is that, no matter who/what you are, there are people that are attracted to that. Pick any characteristic you can think of a do a web search. All sorts of people prefer plus-size partners. All sorts of people prefer small breasts. All sorts of people prefer a dominant partner. And the list go on forever. Helpful was in quotes because, no matter how helpful you think you are being, many people aren't going to like it. Especially when it is unsolicited. |
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The very fact a message was sent to correct someone's profile because you didn't like it was a bitchy move, regardless of how helpful you mistakenly thought you were being. It wasn't a good deed no matter how much time you spend nailing yourself to that cross. Ant then the arrogance required to come in here to give us some public service announcement about not being that guy is pretty unbelievable. |
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I think that's the fundamental problem. People don't look past the words at the intentions of a person before passing judgement and deciding on a reaction. |
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Guess you see things differently and fall in line with the guy. I was merely trying to bring attention to something which may have been missed in the heat of the moment, as obviously it was written whilst emotional and annoyed. Considering that the point of a dating website is to attract others into a date, it would make most sense to write in a sensible manner, but that's just what I think. Unless he's trying to attract chicks who like that douchey attitude, then by all means more power to him and he's right on track. And I didn't tell him to correct it, I merely offered a suggestion that he might want to take into consideration. Agree to disagree, I suppose. |
There are more people here than me that think there was nothing out of line with his profile, and it's just your misinterpretation of it that started things.
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i have no comment on this. ive already established im keeping my distance from you in the tampa thread... lol
actually, i do have a comment. who gives a ****. you found out right off the bat there was no compatibility... move on. done. easy as that :-) |
I don't understand why it's so difficult to understand that my intentions were that of being helpful, or "helpful". I was being genuine and sincere. Why am I being made out to be a bitch for trying to be nice? This is a first for me. Clearly I should've not bothered, but that doesn't change the fact that I was doing it out of kindness and not wanting to see someone get the shaft cause of something that was written while in a bad mood. My bad for caring. Geez...
This is why so many people are jaded and bitter. That's what I've been trying to get across. You do something nice for someone and get a nasty response. That's what's wrong with society and as previously state above- no good deed goes unpunished. |
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