What is wrong with society?

XiP · 01-06-2014, 01:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LadyZ

Oh ffs. Here I am trying to be nice and am getting railroaded and being called names left and right. Gentlemen you are not. How is this remotely about me getting attention in any way? I wanted to bring light to the way some people are and to remind people of to treat others with respect and dignity- how they would want to be treated- which is apparently too hard to understand for some.

I give up and will stick to the people who understand when someone is trying to be genuinely kind to them and help them, unsolicited or not.

And really? It's a website that anyone can see. It's not like it's confidential information or something. If he was worried about it, like anyone else on the site, he shouldn't have joined. Heaven forbid people see what's out there for the entire internet to view.

And if you read my original posting, it was about his response and the idealism that is prevalent among society, hence the name of the thread 'what is wrong with society', not 'look at this dude being a ****'. Rather than just skipping through and looking at the pictures, read what I wrote.

I honestly thought more of you all. I have never been so disrespected in my life. You should be ashamed.

We get that you had good intentions with your message to him but some people won't be receptive to those kinds of things. People are just different and may be going through things in their lives that make them pissy... Try not to let his comments bother you and hopefully you don't take our comments the wrong way either. We're all trying to help each other here and provide constructive feedback.
If it makes you feel any better I love getting dating advice because I'm clueless at it and if you were to have sent that message to me I would have thanked you and updated my profile.

SouthArk370Z · 01-06-2014, 01:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LadyZ

Oh ffs. Here I am trying to be nice and am getting railroaded and being called names left and right. Gentlemen you are not.

You don't seem to understand that not everyone shares your definition of "nice." The guy posted what was apparently exactly what he meant to say in his profile and you, in so many words, told him he sounded like a douche. How is that nice? Then you posted his response in a public forum and came right out and told him he is a douche. Is that nice?

Yeah. The name-calling was a bit much but that just proves your point that some people are ^not^ real nice.

Quote:

Originally Posted by LadyZ

How is this remotely about me getting attention in any way? I wanted to bring light to the way some people are and to remind people of to treat others with respect and dignity- how they would want to be treated- which is apparently too hard to understand for some.

The fact that you made no attempt to redact the guy's personal info would lead many to believe that this is a personal vendetta, not a complaint about the state of Mankind in general. But I am just pointing out how some might interpret it - I make no assumptions as to your motive.

Quote:

Originally Posted by LadyZ

I give up and will stick to the people who understand when someone is trying to be genuinely kind to them and help them, unsolicited or not.

That's what I've been trying to tell you. Find the people that share your definition of "nice" and stick with them.

Quote:

Originally Posted by LadyZ

And if you read my original posting,

It appears that you have deleted your OP, so I can't do that.

Quote:

Originally Posted by LadyZ

it was about his response and the idealism that is prevalent among society, hence the name of the thread 'what is wrong with society', not 'look at this dude being a ****'. Rather than just skipping through and looking at the pictures, read what I wrote.

See above.

Quote:

Originally Posted by LadyZ

I honestly thought more of you all.

There you go again. No one has the responsibility to live up to your expectations.

Quote:

Originally Posted by LadyZ

I have never been so disrespected in my life.

Wouldn't touch that one with a ten-foot pole.

Quote:

Originally Posted by LadyZ

You should be ashamed.

Not in the least.

Edit: added ^not^

ElVee · 01-06-2014, 01:10 PM

This escalated quickly. Was his profile angry-sounding? Perhaps, but I can kinda see why he'd be angry. However, it also had a condescending tone to it. And I dislike when I see guys making a point to put athletic and other crap in what they're looking for.

However, his response to you pretty much shows why he's single and why I agree with the "train wreck" comment someone made earlier. There was no reason to come unhinged and fire off an "anonymous" insult. Dude should have just responded with a kind comment or taken the opportunity to open the lines of dialogue and ask to meet up sometime. Worst case? You have a date that isn't going to work out, but at least you had a date and met someone.

And it shows that he likely doesn't want to text or communicate online, because he clearly has issues with it. If he looks like that, is a firefighter, and wants to meet girls, he needs to go to the bar/club/class/gym and talk to them. That would be "adventurous," "exciting," and "YOLO." (Come on, he sounded YOLO and you all know it.)

Guys don't usually get it about woman and dating sites. It's a big deal for plenty of women to meet up with a strange (probably lecher) guy for a blind date in a place that is outside of their comfort level (or reasonably public place, safe, place). Dude needs to get over himself in that regard and stick to coffee dates or whathaveyou where you meet someone for the first time. You don't go hop a plane to Italy for a first date with someone on Match.com and climb some rocks and go parachuting into the Mediterranean.

XiP · 01-06-2014, 01:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ElVee

This escalated quickly. Was his profile angry-sounding? Perhaps, but I can kinda see why he'd be angry. However, it also had a condescending tone to it. And I dislike when I see guys making a point to put athletic and other crap in what they're looking for.

However, his response to you pretty much shows why he's single and why I agree with the "train wreck" comment someone made earlier. There was no reason to come unhinged and fire off an "anonymous" insult. Dude should have just responded with a kind comment or taken the opportunity to open the lines of dialogue and ask to meet up sometime. Worst case? You have a date that isn't going to work out, but at least you had a date and met someone.

And it shows that he likely doesn't want to text or communicate online, because he clearly has issues with it. If he looks like that, is a firefighter, and wants to meet girls, he needs to go to the bar/club/class/gym and talk to them. That would be "adventurous," "exciting," and "YOLO." (Come on, he sounded YOLO and you all know it.)

Guys don't usually get it about woman and dating sites. It's a big deal for plenty of women to meet up with a strange (probably lecher) guy for a blind date in a place that is outside of their comfort level (or reasonably public place, safe, place). Dude needs to get over himself in that regard and stick to coffee dates or whathaveyou where you meet someone for the first time. You don't go hop a plane to Italy for a first date with someone on Match.com and climb some rocks and go parachuting into the Mediterranean.

I'd totally do that. Only because I want to travel though... meeting someone is a bonus

ElVee · 01-06-2014, 01:17 PM

Well, technically, I'd do that, too. But not with a blind date whom I've not vigorously researched beforehand.

And having an extra $20k to blow on it.

In fact, I'd rather just go alone and meet someone en route. lol

ElVee · 01-06-2014, 01:20 PM

"Look at this stupid man!"
"You're stupid for criticizing someone else as stupid!"

...wait wut?

At least it *looks* like I'm taking the higher road by using some subtlety. But there's plenty of, "You're dumb, no you're dumb!" going on, that is somewhat self-fulfilling.

(+1 to LadyZ for having a Z, first of all. Fuq yeah! And +1 for being a gamer!)

01-06-2014, 01:10 PM	#3 (permalink)
ElVee Track Member Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: Iowa Posts: 750 Drives: 13 370z 7at t+s grey Rep Power: 17	This escalated quickly. Was his profile angry-sounding? Perhaps, but I can kinda see why he'd be angry. However, it also had a condescending tone to it. And I dislike when I see guys making a point to put athletic and other crap in what they're looking for. However, his response to you pretty much shows why he's single and why I agree with the "train wreck" comment someone made earlier. There was no reason to come unhinged and fire off an "anonymous" insult. Dude should have just responded with a kind comment or taken the opportunity to open the lines of dialogue and ask to meet up sometime. Worst case? You have a date that isn't going to work out, but at least you had a date and met someone. And it shows that he likely doesn't want to text or communicate online, because he clearly has issues with it. If he looks like that, is a firefighter, and wants to meet girls, he needs to go to the bar/club/class/gym and talk to them. That would be "adventurous," "exciting," and "YOLO." (Come on, he sounded YOLO and you all know it.) Guys don't usually get it about woman and dating sites. It's a big deal for plenty of women to meet up with a strange (probably lecher) guy for a blind date in a place that is outside of their comfort level (or reasonably public place, safe, place). Dude needs to get over himself in that regard and stick to coffee dates or whathaveyou where you meet someone for the first time. You don't go hop a plane to Italy for a first date with someone on Match.com and climb some rocks and go parachuting into the Mediterranean. shadoquad and XiP like this.

01-06-2014, 01:17 PM	#5 (permalink)
ElVee Track Member Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: Iowa Posts: 750 Drives: 13 370z 7at t+s grey Rep Power: 17	Well, technically, I'd do that, too. But not with a blind date whom I've not vigorously researched beforehand. And having an extra $20k to blow on it. In fact, I'd rather just go alone and meet someone en route. lol XiP likes this.

01-06-2014, 01:20 PM	#6 (permalink)
ElVee Track Member Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: Iowa Posts: 750 Drives: 13 370z 7at t+s grey Rep Power: 17	"Look at this stupid man!" "You're stupid for criticizing someone else as stupid!" ...wait wut? At least it looks like I'm taking the higher road by using some subtlety. But there's plenty of, "You're dumb, no you're dumb!" going on, that is somewhat self-fulfilling. (+1 to LadyZ for having a Z, first of all. Fuq yeah! And +1 for being a gamer!) Last edited by ElVee; 01-06-2014 at 03:10 PM.

Similar Threads
Thread	Thread Starter	Forum	Replies	Last Post
SLAMMED SOCIETY presented by Fatlace and JDMChicago (June 30, 2013)	Liquid_G	Mid Western Region	3	06-04-2013 12:47 PM
Nu Conceptz & Spec 1 Society Car Show - Sept 30	Starbux	Mid-Atlantic Region	5	10-01-2012 01:16 AM
[1013MM] Presents: Formula Drift Round 1 Streets of Long Beach & Slammed Society Show	1013mm	Photography	1	04-15-2011 03:08 PM