What is wrong with society?

SouthArk370Z

No matter what you look like, there will be people who are not attracted to you because of it. No matter what your personality, there will be people who are not attracted to you because of it. No matter what your _____, there will be people who are not attracted to you because of it. There is no one-size-fits-all.

The flip side of that coin is that, no matter who/what you are, there are people that are attracted to that. Pick any characteristic you can think of a do a web search. All sorts of people prefer plus-size partners. All sorts of people prefer small breasts. All sorts of people prefer a dominant partner. And the list go on forever.

Helpful was in quotes because, no matter how helpful you think you are being, many people aren't going to like it. Especially when it is unsolicited.

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Chuck33079

The very fact a message was sent to correct someone's profile because you didn't like it was a bitchy move, regardless of how helpful you mistakenly thought you were being. It wasn't a good deed no matter how much time you spend nailing yourself to that cross. Ant then the arrogance required to come in here to give us some public service announcement about not being that guy is pretty unbelievable.

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LadyZ

I think that's the fundamental problem. People don't look past the words at the intentions of a person before passing judgement and deciding on a reaction.

LadyZ

Guess you see things differently and fall in line with the guy. I was merely trying to bring attention to something which may have been missed in the heat of the moment, as obviously it was written whilst emotional and annoyed. Considering that the point of a dating website is to attract others into a date, it would make most sense to write in a sensible manner, but that's just what I think. Unless he's trying to attract chicks who like that douchey attitude, then by all means more power to him and he's right on track.

And I didn't tell him to correct it, I merely offered a suggestion that he might want to take into consideration.

Agree to disagree, I suppose.

Chuck33079

There are more people here than me that think there was nothing out of line with his profile, and it's just your misinterpretation of it that started things.

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Lothario

i have no comment on this. ive already established im keeping my distance from you in the tampa thread... lol

actually, i do have a comment. who gives a ****. you found out right off the bat there was no compatibility... move on. done.

easy as that :-)

LadyZ

I don't understand why it's so difficult to understand that my intentions were that of being helpful, or "helpful". I was being genuine and sincere. Why am I being made out to be a bitch for trying to be nice? This is a first for me. Clearly I should've not bothered, but that doesn't change the fact that I was doing it out of kindness and not wanting to see someone get the shaft cause of something that was written while in a bad mood. My bad for caring. Geez...

This is why so many people are jaded and bitter. That's what I've been trying to get across. You do something nice for someone and get a nasty response. That's what's wrong with society and as previously state above- no good deed goes unpunished.

XiP

Unless they're asking for advice or your opinion you shouldn't mention anything unless they're a friend or someone you've known for a while. I think dating sites go both ways with the annoyance factor. When people list things they're looking for and you don't meet those requirements it makes you feel bad...

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Chuck33079

Yes, that's it. Or that there was nothing really angry or out of line with his profile except in your opinion, and you're trying to make yourself out to be a martyr. Your message doesn't come across as genuine and sincere, it comes across as being condescending whether that's what you intended or not. In the future, when you're on the internet and you see something you don't like, just move on. Don't "try to be helpful" when it's unsolicited or you just come off as judgmental and obnoxious.

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kenchan

LadyZ

Lol oh no. Poor me. Whatever will I do without you in my life. *dramatic sigh*

SouthArk370Z

The road to Hell is paved with good intentions.

BINGO!

And your intentions don't change the fact that the guy didn't want your input. You poked a hornet's nest and got stung. Quit poking hornet's nests if you don't like the result.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What you think of as nice and helpful, others may see as being a bitch.


Quit expecting people to live up to your expectations. All you are doing is setting yourself up for disappointment.

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SouthArk370Z

If you had just thought that to yourself and moved on when you read the profile, your hurt feelings and all this discussion would have been avoided. Some people aren't going to like you for no better reason than the way you look, the way you talk, ... anything and everything. Some people are jackasses and don't mind proving it when you cross them. That's just the way it is. Learn to spot these people and avoid them.

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rAiN

obviously someone here does not get the point and wants too much attention, did you really have to take screenshot of his profile which includes his description and pictures and go about how angry he is?

did you really have to make a thread about this and just tell us how bad this guy was? was this your intention of being "nice"?

lets think about this first.