Lol oh no. Poor me. Whatever will I do without you in my life. *dramatic sigh*

The road to Hell is paved with good intentions. ;)

BINGO!

And your intentions don't change the fact that the guy didn't want your input. You poked a hornet's nest and got stung. Quit poking hornet's nests if you don't like the result.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What you think of as nice and helpful, others may see as being a bitch.


Quit expecting people to live up to your expectations. All you are doing is setting yourself up for disappointment.

If you had just thought that to yourself and moved on when you read the profile, your hurt feelings and all this discussion would have been avoided. Some people aren't going to like you for no better reason than the way you look, the way you talk, ... anything and everything. Some people are jackasses and don't mind proving it when you cross them. That's just the way it is. Learn to spot these people and avoid them.

obviously someone here does not get the point and wants too much attention, did you really have to take screenshot of his profile which includes his description and pictures and go about how angry he is?

did you really have to make a thread about this and just tell us how bad this guy was? was this your intention of being "nice"?

lets think about this first.

:iagree:

She isn't even a decent enough human being to remove the guy's profile name over there before posting it on the internet. If you're going to out someone like that how about you post your profile up here too?

I'd argue people like AttentionWhoreZ are more of the problem with society than the douchebag. At least he didn't go seek her out to be an ***. She came to him.

What is wrong with society?
 

Oh ffs. Here I am trying to be nice and am getting railroaded and being called names left and right. Gentlemen you are not. How is this remotely about me getting attention in any way? I wanted to bring light to the way some people are and to remind people of to treat others with respect and dignity- how they would want to be treated- which is apparently too hard to understand for some.

I give up and will stick to the people who understand when someone is trying to be genuinely kind to them and help them, unsolicited or not.

And really? It's a website that anyone can see. It's not like it's confidential information or something. If he was worried about it, like anyone else on the site, he shouldn't have joined. Heaven forbid people see what's out there for the entire internet to view.

And if you read my original posting, it was about his response and the idealism that is prevalent among society, hence the name of the thread 'what is wrong with society', not 'look at this dude being a ****'. Rather than just skipping through and looking at the pictures, read what I wrote.

I honestly thought more of you all. I have never been so disrespected in my life. You should be ashamed.

We get that you had good intentions with your message to him but some people won't be receptive to those kinds of things. People are just different and may be going through things in their lives that make them pissy... Try not to let his comments bother you and hopefully you don't take our comments the wrong way either. We're all trying to help each other here and provide constructive feedback.
If it makes you feel any better I love getting dating advice because I'm clueless at it and if you were to have sent that message to me I would have thanked you and updated my profile.

This escalated quickly. Was his profile angry-sounding? Perhaps, but I can kinda see why he'd be angry. However, it also had a condescending tone to it. And I dislike when I see guys making a point to put athletic and other crap in what they're looking for.

However, his response to you pretty much shows why he's single and why I agree with the "train wreck" comment someone made earlier. There was no reason to come unhinged and fire off an "anonymous" insult. Dude should have just responded with a kind comment or taken the opportunity to open the lines of dialogue and ask to meet up sometime. Worst case? You have a date that isn't going to work out, but at least you had a date and met someone.

And it shows that he likely doesn't want to text or communicate online, because he clearly has issues with it. If he looks like that, is a firefighter, and wants to meet girls, he needs to go to the bar/club/class/gym and talk to them. That would be "adventurous," "exciting," and "YOLO." (Come on, he sounded YOLO and you all know it.)

Guys don't usually get it about woman and dating sites. It's a big deal for plenty of women to meet up with a strange (probably lecher) guy for a blind date in a place that is outside of their comfort level (or reasonably public place, safe, place). Dude needs to get over himself in that regard and stick to coffee dates or whathaveyou where you meet someone for the first time. You don't go hop a plane to Italy for a first date with someone on Match.com and climb some rocks and go parachuting into the Mediterranean.

I'd totally do that. Only because I want to travel though... meeting someone is a bonus :icon17:

You don't seem to understand that not everyone shares your definition of "nice." The guy posted what was apparently exactly what he meant to say in his profile and you, in so many words, told him he sounded like a douche. How is that nice? Then you posted his response in a public forum and came right out and told him he is a douche. Is that nice?

Yeah. The name-calling was a bit much but that just proves your point that some people are ^not^ real nice. ;)

The fact that you made no attempt to redact the guy's personal info would lead many to believe that this is a personal vendetta, not a complaint about the state of Mankind in general. But I am just pointing out how some might interpret it - I make no assumptions as to your motive.

That's what I've been trying to tell you. Find the people that share your definition of "nice" and stick with them.

It appears that you have deleted your OP, so I can't do that.

See above.

There you go again. No one has the responsibility to live up to your expectations.

Wouldn't touch that one with a ten-foot pole.

Not in the least.

Edit: added ^not^

Well, technically, I'd do that, too. But not with a blind date whom I've not vigorously researched beforehand.

And having an extra $20k to blow on it. :)

In fact, I'd rather just go alone and meet someone en route. lol

"Look at this stupid man!"
"You're stupid for criticizing someone else as stupid!"

...wait wut?

At least it *looks* like I'm taking the higher road by using some subtlety. But there's plenty of, "You're dumb, no you're dumb!" going on, that is somewhat self-fulfilling.


(+1 to LadyZ for having a Z, first of all. Fuq yeah! And +1 for being a gamer!)