Over 30 and still single, post here.

Haboob · 11-04-2013, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by blackcherry20

Start with something small that strikes your fancy and decorate around that. could be as simple as a throw pillow, or a framed photo or painting...anything...just add stuff as you come across it. get a frined to help you-somebody who has a cool decor that you like. just gotta ask...

Yeah. I watch too much HGTV and want my house to look something like what I see on some of those shows.

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Originally Posted by kenchan

do you guys do much online dating? does that work at all or?

i ask because when i was young, there was barely any internet.

world wide web was a mistery when it was introduced. 14.4 dial up anyone?

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Originally Posted by Chuck33079

With all your new free time, decorating will be easy. Paint is cheap. Women want to see domestic potential in you.

This is where the gay friend comes in. Every straight man needs a gay friend. Stereotyping heavily, but they're great with decorations and clothes, and they are un-freaking-believable wingmen. Don't be afraid to accompany them to gay bars, either. There are straight women there accompanying their gay friends.

I tried it back in the early 2000s. I got laid a lot, but I didn't meet anyone I wanted to know for any reason but sex. It seems to have changed, though. Two of my best friends are with women they met online, and they're cool chicks.

I have tried it, but no luck. I'm not the type of person to just hook up, I guess. That and I'm not very good at writing about myself or breaking the ice.

Chuck33079 · 11-04-2013, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Haboob

Yeah. I watch too much HGTV and want my house to look something like what I see on some of those shows.

I lucked out. When I bought my house, my mom was a recently retired interior decorator. "Here's my budget, here's my credit card. Go nuts."

kenchan · 11-04-2013, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Haboob

I have tried it, but no luck. I'm not the type of person to just hook up, I guess. That and I'm not very good at writing about myself or breaking the ice.

i c... hummm... would it help to note that you're not really good writing about yourself and stuff?

not sure, but i feel that there are many people out there that's not good at writing about one's self and also communicating their thoughts... without feeling awkward. perhaps that might be a common ground to start a relation?

Chuck33079 · 11-04-2013, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by kenchan

i c... hummm... would it help to note that you're not really good writing about yourself and stuff?

not sure, but i feel that there are many people out there that's not good at writing about one's self and also communicating their thoughts... without feeling awkward. perhaps that might be a common ground to start a relation?

That's how you tell the difference between the real people and the fake ones on dating sites. Real people sound awkward when writing about themselves.

ElVee · 11-04-2013, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by DIGItonium

Seriously? Over the weekend this drunk dude tried to get on my case about my situation. I talk about this stuff just for fun and get opinions, so it's not a cry for help or anything. He tries to "be there for me" and that he "wants me to be happy," ...

This was going somewhere else really quick....

Haboob · 11-04-2013, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Chuck33079

That's how you tell the difference between the real people and the fake ones on dating sites. Real people sound awkward when writing about themselves.

I guess that's true.

Though I don't think I've ever gotten a response back on those sites.

I guess it's just me.

Chuck33079 · 11-04-2013, 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Haboob

Though I don't think I've ever gotten a response back on those sites.

Then stop sending unsolicited wang pics.

ElVee · 11-04-2013, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Chuck33079

Being a single guy with a house is like having a secret weapon. Seriously. Keep it clean. Decorate it. Buy curtains (I'm completely serious). Have something alive in it- can be as simple as a houseplant or fish tank.

And if your buddies don't manage to get you out for a birthday and post-breakup issues, you may need new friends as well.

Crazy great advice. Having a plant or fish tank, even in an apartment, transforms it completely. If you have poor lighting or suck with plants, just get a few hearty ones, and splurge on fake ones in the corners and out-of-the-way places where they won't be closely inspected.

The fake ones are more believable when next to real ones.

I also love the art advice. You don't need to be an afficionado. If you have money, buy some art from local art students or from a local art fair. It'll be unique, and shows you're generous. Otherwise, find some things that interest you and look up art pieces based on those things on ebay or etsy or something. You can get some really nice looking stuff that to someone who knows the subject, will go crazy over it, but to anyone outside that hobby will just look like a more abstract piece of art. (canvas silhouettes of favorite anime/movie characters, things like that).

And frame your damn posters.

ElVee · 11-04-2013, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by kenchan

huh... interesting. *kenchan scratching chin*

yah, i know a few people that mentioned they met online. and they have a nice family and all.

and wat cracked me up was the folks that married their long time gf's pretty much all divorced.

ok, not a laughing matter ..but the point is, it seems there's more and more quality people are online and are willing to reach out.

Meeting online lets you get past the superficial surface stuff and right down into talking about who you really are deep down. Those are the connections that can last a lifetime, friends or otherwise. Just have to look out for the Crazy and the Damaged.

Chuck33079 · 11-04-2013, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by ElVee

Crazy great advice. Having a plant or fish tank, even in an apartment, transforms it completely. If you have poor lighting or suck with plants, just get a few hearty ones, and splurge on fake ones in the corners and out-of-the-way places where they won't be closely inspected.

The fake ones are more believable when next to real ones.

Yep. Women see something alive in your apartment/house and subconsiously think "He can keep something alive. He'll be a great dad!".

Now if you want to go with the nuclear option, get a puppy.

It's almost not fair. 30ish single guy with his own house, walking a puppy at the dog park? Expect panties thrown at you.

Chuck33079 · 11-04-2013, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by ElVee

Just have to look out for the Crazy and the Damaged.

And the ones who clearly misunderstand what an "athletic" build is. Listen bitch, sumo doesn't count.

Haboob · 11-04-2013, 10:48 AM

Ugh, alright. Y'all are gonna make me go research house stuff again. Maybe this time I'll pull the trigger.

Haboob · 11-04-2013, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Chuck33079

Then stop sending unsolicited wang pics.

Oh! I thought that was a good way to break the ice...

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Originally Posted by Chuck33079

Yep. Women see something alive in your apartment/house and subconsiously think "He can keep something alive. He'll be a great dad!".

Now if you want to go with the nuclear option, get a puppy.

It's almost not fair. 30ish single guy with his own house, walking a puppy at the dog park? Expect panties thrown at you.

I really do want a salt-water fish tank, but I'm not sure of pricing and maintenance costs.

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Originally Posted by Chuck33079

And the ones who clearly misunderstand what an "athletic" build is. Listen bitch, sumo doesn't count.

100% agree. How do you mess this up? Lying SOBs.

ElVee · 11-04-2013, 10:56 AM

Since I butted into this thread, let me justify it.

I'm about 35 (beyond 30 it's a math effort to know my age) and single myself. Quite enjoying the life. Have friends with families and you can see the envy on their face when you get to enjoy your freedom!

kenchan · 11-04-2013, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Haboob

I guess that's true.

Though I don't think I've ever gotten a response back on those sites.

I guess it's just me.

hummmm...

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Originally Posted by Chuck33079

Then stop sending unsolicited wang pics.

11-04-2013, 10:56 AM	#44 (permalink)
ElVee Track Member Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: Iowa Posts: 750 Drives: 13 370z 7at t+s grey Rep Power: 16	Since I butted into this thread, let me justify it. I'm about 35 (beyond 30 it's a math effort to know my age) and single myself. Quite enjoying the life. Have friends with families and you can see the envy on their face when you get to enjoy your freedom! Chuck33079, Z-Girl 12, Haboob and 1 others like this.

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11-04-2013, 10:48 AM	#42 (permalink)
Haboob A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Surface of the sun. Posts: 13,159 Drives: '18 GTI Autobahn DSG Rep Power: 1387	Ugh, alright. Y'all are gonna make me go research house stuff again. Maybe this time I'll pull the trigger.