Over 30 and still single, post here.

exsanity

It's kinda old anyway.

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Driftomodachi

Go watch Swingers. You're like this big bear man, and you have these big claws and the bunny's just sitting there, and you have these big claws but you don't know what to do with them. you gotta kill the bunny!

Haboob

Kids can be cool.

Not sure if I want any yet, and I'm super nervous about being around other peoples kids unless I know the person well, and even then I'm a bit stand-offish.

Animals? I don't want any. I don't mind dogs, cats are boring, but I don't hate them. I'm not a huge fanatic of either, so some things in the news don't really bother me like it does others and it forces me to keep my mouth shut for fear of offending people (but, it bugs the **** out of me when they go on their fanatical rants, so I guess I shouldn't really be biting my tongue if they're not going to).

I won't ever own a pet though, because they all shed and I refuse to deal with pet hair on my clothes and causing allergies, etc.

DIGItonium

Just try to keep nitpicking, prejudice, self negativity, etc., to an absolute minimum or zippo. It will be difficult, but you want to build a positive conversation environment so people you're around will feel comfortable talking to you. Just have some fun and show your funny side if you can. So maybe you don't drink... just make it funny. I get that all the time on days I chose not to drink, so I tell them I want to maintain my figure.

Not everything in life is a positive one, but I try to make it funny or poke fun at it instead of moping about it (or go out for drinks). So when people ask, I just talk about it a little bit without looking depressed and emo. I don't care. This might sound bad, but maybe I'll get the chance one day. It beats getting back with an ex.

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ElVee

Have to admit, whenever I see the title of this thread come up, I think back to a video George Sodini did:

George Sodini Home Video - Pittsburgh Gym Shooter - YouTube

It was pretty creepy finding the original up on YouTube shortly after the shooting. This isn't it, but does contain the full original inside it. From other news outlets, I guess the guy hadn't had sex in 19 years and was a little fixated on that. In the end, he was a very unhappy, angry person.

Cmike2780

Whoa!...that's a bit of a leap...

I don't think it's really fair to compare anyone here asking for advice to someone with mental issues.

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DIGItonium

True. As bad as getting FZ'd sounds when meeting someone new, maybe some people (like me) have to start out that way at the beginning. This is definitely how nice guys finish last. I read about it, and basically I just have to play it cool.

That's what I've been doing recently, which is pace myself and not come off too pushy or desperate. That means taking my time to get to know the person. The difficult part is that she's obviously talking to others, so some guys can seal the deal quicker.

I've been first may times and leave it for others to get sloppy 2nds , so I could care less as long as she doesn't have VD or some other crazy sh*t or baggage when my turn comes around haha.

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paperboy42190

I'm not 30 yet but I feel like I can relate. It is definitely annoying when friends check up on you and always ask "How's your love life?" "Do you have a gf?" etc etc I mean why is that always one of the main topics that come up? and sometimes they try to "help" out or give sympathetic advice.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/ashleyperez/...red-of-hearing

I do feel like having a relationship is overrated, not everyone needs one to be happy. Why do people in relationships get to "feel sorry" for people not in one?

Cmike2780

That's true, but I don't think most people who are in relationships "feel sorry" for people not in one. I think most people in happy relationships are genuine about why YOU should feel the same way. It's definitely an annoying topic, trust me... and it doesn't end when you're in a relationship either. The questions just change...when are you getting engaged?....when are you getting married?...when are you buying a house?...when are you having a baby?...when are you having another baby....it just goes on and on and on and on.... If you don't want any of that, it's totally fine, but those type questions shouldn't bother you if you never want to be in a committed relationship. My guess (and I've felt the same in the past) is that it makes you feel like crap when they ask.... like you're not trying or failed some societal norm. Some just say stuff like that because they have nothing else to say. For the most part, it's just rude. I'd fire right back with similarly uncomfortable question.

Forever alone isn't exactly a best case scenario for most people though.

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XiP

This! My family, friends, and coworkers keep asking me why I'm single and it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong or supposed to be actively dating

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paperboy42190

Good point. I had not thought of it that way before. I've had girlfriends before and even though I'm single now I don't feel like I'm unhappy without one. You're right it's just those societal norms that make people ask those questions.

alphajam

Because it's not the "social norm." I'll chime in with a little bit of my personal past (unwarranted but going to anyways) I dated a girl for over 10 years off and on and over 8 years steady. We met in elementary school and started dating in middle school. We went all the way through our sophomore year of college (we also went to the same college). We started bickering a lot and drifting apart around that time and she was wanting to quit school and have a baby extremely hardcore for some reason, and I just wasn't going to do that. Long story short, we broke up and she quit school and year and half later she was prego. Broke my heart, and ever since then I just can't find that connection that we had. I don't know if its the connection I miss or the comfortability I miss. IDK. ANYWAYS, I've met women in my age range (I'm 25) and they're either sketchy as hell or severely immature. Am I happy being single? Yes. Do I miss that odd/beautiful/nagging connection? Yes. It's just a really weird time for guys in our age to find someone thats compatible and not absolutely bat **** crazy. Hope this helps you, I feel better just telling someone else something that I've been keeping to myself for quite a while.. Even if it is to people I don't know.

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Alpha, I can't begin to tell you how accurate of a portrayal that was of my own life in the present. It's like many of them possess the same M.O. and have baggage they seem to lug around that they're unwilling to part from.

paperboy42190

+1

but I'm 23 though. I definitely agree on the immature part. I see a lot of girls who are immature and it's just a turn off for me.

Ghostvette

DIGI, being FZ'd isn't too bad sometimes. I could be a typical Marine (rude, crude and socially unacceptable) without feeling like I had to impress her. She would ask what I did the night before, I'd tell her about any dates and how they went. It was actually funny to watch her reactions, she'd get mad when I said I had a good time or a little smug when I said the date didn't go so well. We taught karate together, so we had a ton of time to talk after the dojo closed. I got the impression she wanted to take the next step, but I was like 'no, you FZ'd me, so that's where you are staying'... that's where she still is, a friend that wishes she would have made the right choice. I'm enjoying my life, she had the chance and let it slide.

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