Why not put the ball in her court? You pick the place for dinner, but have her pick the activity since it's in her neck of the woods.
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01-08-2014, 11:00 AM | #196 (permalink) |
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Why not put the ball in her court? You pick the place for dinner, but have her pick the activity since it's in her neck of the woods.
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Good luck to you sir. A good first date on a Wed is going to be challenging but not impossible. I wouldn't do that on a first date. Women want something planned, not having to plan something....especially on the first date. The worst possible response to that conversation is, "I dunno, where do you wanna go?"
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Definitely. Thanks!
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"Any place is fine." "Ok, let's go to X." "I hate X, pick something else. Anything's fine." "How about Y?" "I hate Y." "Then you pick." "Anything's fine" Repeat until you just say "**** it" and go to the one place you hate that you know she loves, and she wanted to go to, but didn't want to suggest it.
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....can also apply to... "where do you want to eat for dinner?" I'm actually kinda glad my girl's a vegetarian. Every restaurant has salad or pasta.
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My gf and I have this argument at least every ten days. They always win that one since we value silence more than they do. "If I take you to the place you like will you stfu about it already? Yes? Then get in the ******* car."
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Well the night was interesting, but short. We did have a good talk, but there was so much to talk about I couldn't quite organize my thoughts or even finish them without getting interrupted. After leaving the restaurant she hugged me a couple of times, thanked me, but she wanted to go home to sleep. She showed interest to meet up again and told me to just let her know. Once I got home I broke the rules by making a courtesy call to make sure she made it home alright and to finish an important thought. She thanked me again for dinner, had a great night, and that she felt comfortable talking to me. She also reiterated about hanging out again soon be it tomorrow night at the club or this weekend.
Overall the night was okay. She's full of positive energy and is highly social (more than me). Needs more time...
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Also, saying she wants to hang out again and making plans to hang out again are two different things. Too little too late, but just dinner wasn't really the best plan for a first date. It's not enough time to know someone and too many distractions associated with eating food. You're also facing each other like you're on an interview the whole time instead of spending time side by side. It's a strange minutia of body language interpretation, but it could mean the difference between being comfortable and being totally turned off. You also have to be honest with yourself and ask if you're really into her. ...and awwwwww....dude!! You never call her right after just seeing her. I apologize if I sound negative, but there's still a shot with girl if you play your cards right. My advise (and you can totally ignore it).... is to give it at least two days before you call her again...so Saturday at the earliest. Talk on the phone about all the thoughts you wanted to get out there. Phone dates can be just as constructive as dinner dates so treat it as such. Watch "Swingers"
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The interruptions stemmed from briefly interrupting herself once to text someone, seeing friends coming in and getting up to chat with them (before ordering food and after dinner), and the lengthy conversation with the server. I gotta hand it to her though. She doesn't go off initiating hugs with everyone, and she hugged me quite a bit before and after the date. She's very charismatic, and one would probably describe her as a social butterfly.
I have a hunch she's the type that would be out and socializing with lots of people at the club. I don't get the vibe that she's out looking for guys since they're the ones chasing and creeping on her, but she seems to enjoy socializing with people. At this stage, if I were to see her I'd just hug if she initiates, get her a drink, quick chat, and just let her do her thing. Agreed. I think she's giving me more time and opportunities. Personally, the challenge is not entirely about her, but it's for me to figure out how to make the right moves, be myself, and stay confident.
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Hmm... she asked me about the club tonight, which is probably not the best idea to do that. So far no plans for Friday and Saturday. I do plan to take it further the next time I see her.
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[shrugs] I'm assuming she's going to be surrounded and see how I'd handle it if I'm there? I might gather up some good wingmen. Another challenge, indeed. Haha.
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