thanks for the inputs and questions .
she would call/text me and tell me she still loves me , still thinks about me. But when I try to say get us back together , she says she doesn't know what she wants right now and the main focus is on her school . Most recent one was on 12-21-12. It was silly , that day morning she ask me what if today the world ends ? I say , I would tell my mom and dad that I love them , and wish to see her for one last time . Then I ask her the same thing , she says ,she would tell me she loves me and see me in the next life . Reason I keep pursuing it is because I get really confused . Think she doesn't want anything to do with me any more but keeps telling these things .


It was more of the act of lying with a little bit about what was lied about .

Almost everything can be forgiven -- not so easy to forget. Stop driving yourself crazy. Let go for a while and see what happens. Trust me -- if it is meant to be, it will be. If not, then all you are going to do by pushing is make yourself nuts. I know this is true -- let go.

Yeah, she cares about you, but she's not interested in a relationship take 2 right now, based on that. What would help is you give her space, let her find out what she wants emotionally. She's already told you her Priorities, so the more you press the issue right now, the more negative response you'll get. Focus on healing and being alright with yourself, and if she comes back later on, address it then. But right now the best thing you can do is be happy with yourself.

Onzedge and Chris. Thank you very much ! I really appreciate it !

And yes this 2 weeks I've been doing very good with my self. Focusing on my business and my school .

Just the little moments when that thought strike your mind and you just can't help but to think of the old times you know ? But yeah , I'm recovering at a good pace .

I know what you're going through, been there before. It's a rough place. You just have to keep your focus on work/school and you'll be alright, and have good grades to show for it. :tup:

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Hi all :hello:

Heading to bed. Have a great night :tup:

:hello: gale! lol gone so soon?! :p im too busy watching races on youtube and SPEED channel!

good late pm, everyone! :tup:

damn, gotta go to work tomorrow. :ugh2: hope i can still remember how to get to the office. :icon17:

It's your heart and it's your own thinking, it's difficult to go against the memory because yourself is recalling them.

It's tough.. at the beginning...

Time... give yourself some times....


She was probably just want to make sure are you doing ok... but yes, it's very easy to mislead you thinking there's a 2nd chance...

And there you go, you tried hard on the 2nd month, which, turned out the opposite.... which is normal, when her mind is blank...

One time a girl told me, imagine a soaking soap, the harder you squeeze it, the easier it will slip away.

Hold it gently and it'll stay in your hand.


At that moment, it's not about verbal... it's about how to sort things out yourself and herself, as two individual.

You better not think about her part but just focus on how to go on with your own life.

Fix up your own life first, get your life back on track and become a healthy person again, that's most important...

How can you mind other people business if you can't even look after your own...??


:tup: dude... you are doing fine... and you WILL do fine....

I had a heart broken break-up, Dec 2011.

18 months relationship and she was the best I thought I could have... so much hope and a huge picture for the future....

Yes.. the first couple months of time was friggin' tough, I feel you bro...

My friend gave me huge support, I played tennis like crazy, try to do lots of things to fill up the free time but at the end there's always those moments I am by myself and those "stuffs" starts playing in my mind and it drove me crazy.. (And that's when I start staying up late til 4-5am cos I can't sleep)

Only after being so friggin' sad for a long while...

I realized life must go on and there's always better things to do than being a sad person sitting around wasting time.

There's not only this one girl you will see/meet in your whole lifespan... get up and move on and make yourself a better life.

Like many things, you gave your best effort, it works out, then it's good.

If it doesn't work out, you gave your best already, move on.

I once told myself, "alcheng, You treat her good, you did your part at best, you gave it all, but she didn't take it, alrighty, someone else in the future will do, now move on and enjoy your life...!!"

Treat yourself good... you are the only person who can truly appreciate yourself.

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Alcheng nailed it...:tup:

you really need to cut all contact. block her number, or change yours