Bro In Law Ruining my Wifes Family!!Advice?

ludeakris7 · 11-19-2010, 03:16 PM

Long story, disowned! Move on

Trips · 11-19-2010, 03:21 PM

Jesus Christ!!! Double space once in while? Lol

kenchan · 11-19-2010, 03:23 PM

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ludeakris7 · 11-19-2010, 03:23 PM

yea I just realized that...lol..my bad

Trips · 11-19-2010, 03:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kenchan

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daisuke149 · 11-19-2010, 03:24 PM

invite the mom, and sister over. not the BIL. set em down. give em the fact.s they dont like it and ignore it, outta your hands.

m4a1mustang · 11-19-2010, 03:28 PM

Sounds like a job for:

Trips · 11-19-2010, 03:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by m4a1mustang

Sounds like a job for:

Demon Z · 11-19-2010, 03:41 PM

Dear ludeakris7,

Please edit original post for readability.

Signed,
Everyone.

Having said that, this "kid" is 23. In my experience, blood is not thicker than water. We cannot choose who our family is and therefore does not obligate us to associate with said individuals. It is a choice we all have to make. My point is if your wife's family allow themselves to get walked on by him because he's family and no other reason, it's their own fault. This is my own personal opinion and nothing more.

AlphaSnacks · 11-19-2010, 03:55 PM

With all due respect, you married into one f*cked up family.

If I were you, I'd make sure your wife stops talking to her brother.

ludeakris7 · 11-19-2010, 03:56 PM

It saddens me cuz I was really close to him when he first started messing up and I covered for him like a brother and ends up he screwed me over. I really don't want to see him this way and neither my wife. We have tried over and over to knock sense into him but he just laughs in our face. Its a shame. We thought he would figure life out but its just getting worse. Its hard to see my wife stressed.

ludeakris7 · 11-19-2010, 03:57 PM

funny thing is Arnold is that before all this happened I came from a divorced home and felt like my fam was bad...boy have things changed! My poor wifey

m4a1mustang · 11-19-2010, 03:57 PM

You created him. You can destroy him.

Cell · 11-19-2010, 04:13 PM

I actually read your story and I feel part of your pain. I say this because I have a cousin that is the same way. The only difference is that he has a gambling addiction and on top of that one of aunts is suspicious of him doing drugs too.

The thing is my aunt (my cousin's mom) is the same way as your MIL. Doesn't do anything to force him to change or do any good. When ever there is a bill that comes up like car insurance payments or car maintenance fees, he forces his mom to pay it all. All the money that he earns is basically wasted on gambling. When ever he tells his mom to pay it and she doesn't, he would threaten her and say that he will stop working and blah blah blah. I am not sure why she falls into his traps.

Honestly though, you can't do much other than be honest. If you know something just let your wife know. As for your BIL, he will always be the same till he loses EVERYTHING. this means going to prison for 5 years of his life over drug charges and realizing that getting butt raped again isn't the way he want it anymore.

CervanteZ · 11-19-2010, 04:15 PM

I would usually say that it's a "family" matter, but you are family (at least married into). Nevertheless, once he steals, money or otherwise, it needs to be addressed right away.
I've seen some guys riding in black and white vehicles that might be able to help. File reports and such.

Just 'cause he's your wife's brother doesn't mean you have to put up with his crap. Gotta cut your loses.

And no I didn't read your whole post, in case my answer doesn't make any sense.

11-19-2010, 03:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
ludeakris7 Base Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Philadelphia Posts: 27 Drives: 2001 Honda Prelude Rep Power: 16	Bro In Law Ruining my Wifes Family!!Advice? Long story, disowned! Move on Last edited by ludeakris7; 01-20-2011 at 09:08 AM.

11-19-2010, 03:21 PM	#2 (permalink)
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11-19-2010, 04:15 PM	#15 (permalink)
CervanteZ Base Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Cali Posts: 133 Drives: 2009 370z PW AUTO Rep Power: 16	I would usually say that it's a "family" matter, but you are family (at least married into). Nevertheless, once he steals, money or otherwise, it needs to be addressed right away. I've seen some guys riding in black and white vehicles that might be able to help. File reports and such. Just 'cause he's your wife's brother doesn't mean you have to put up with his crap. Gotta cut your loses. And no I didn't read your whole post, in case my answer doesn't make any sense. __________________

11-19-2010, 03:23 PM	#3 (permalink)
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11-19-2010, 03:23 PM	#4 (permalink)
ludeakris7 Base Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Philadelphia Posts: 27 Drives: 2001 Honda Prelude Rep Power: 16	yea I just realized that...lol..my bad

11-19-2010, 03:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
daisuke149 My *** is famous! Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Alpharetta, GA Posts: 4,849 Drives: 2013 Boss 302 PW Rep Power: 31	invite the mom, and sister over. not the BIL. set em down. give em the fact.s they dont like it and ignore it, outta your hands.

11-19-2010, 03:41 PM	#9 (permalink)
Demon Z Base Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Central Ohio Posts: 229 Drives: '13 FR-S Rep Power: 17	Dear ludeakris7, Please edit original post for readability. Signed, Everyone. Having said that, this "kid" is 23. In my experience, blood is not thicker than water. We cannot choose who our family is and therefore does not obligate us to associate with said individuals. It is a choice we all have to make. My point is if your wife's family allow themselves to get walked on by him because he's family and no other reason, it's their own fault. This is my own personal opinion and nothing more.

11-19-2010, 03:55 PM	#10 (permalink)
AlphaSnacks A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Windermere, FL Posts: 1,618 Drives: '13 XKR-S, '10 370Z Rep Power: 18	With all due respect, you married into one f*cked up family. If I were you, I'd make sure your wife stops talking to her brother.

11-19-2010, 03:56 PM	#11 (permalink)
ludeakris7 Base Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Philadelphia Posts: 27 Drives: 2001 Honda Prelude Rep Power: 16	It saddens me cuz I was really close to him when he first started messing up and I covered for him like a brother and ends up he screwed me over. I really don't want to see him this way and neither my wife. We have tried over and over to knock sense into him but he just laughs in our face. Its a shame. We thought he would figure life out but its just getting worse. Its hard to see my wife stressed.

11-19-2010, 03:57 PM	#12 (permalink)
ludeakris7 Base Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Philadelphia Posts: 27 Drives: 2001 Honda Prelude Rep Power: 16	funny thing is Arnold is that before all this happened I came from a divorced home and felt like my fam was bad...boy have things changed! My poor wifey

11-19-2010, 04:13 PM	#14 (permalink)
Cell A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Chicago Posts: 1,449 Drives: A Garbage Truck Rep Power: 21	I actually read your story and I feel part of your pain. I say this because I have a cousin that is the same way. The only difference is that he has a gambling addiction and on top of that one of aunts is suspicious of him doing drugs too. The thing is my aunt (my cousin's mom) is the same way as your MIL. Doesn't do anything to force him to change or do any good. When ever there is a bill that comes up like car insurance payments or car maintenance fees, he forces his mom to pay it all. All the money that he earns is basically wasted on gambling. When ever he tells his mom to pay it and she doesn't, he would threaten her and say that he will stop working and blah blah blah. I am not sure why she falls into his traps. Honestly though, you can't do much other than be honest. If you know something just let your wife know. As for your BIL, he will always be the same till he loses EVERYTHING. this means going to prison for 5 years of his life over drug charges and realizing that getting butt raped again isn't the way he want it anymore.

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