Bro In Law Ruining my Wifes Family!!Advice?

Originally Posted by ludeakris7

Long story, my wifes bro is a complete waste and since he was a teen has been tearing my wifes family apart and I have been watching it happen. He has been a junky for the past 8 years and has stolen from my wife and I (thousands in jewelry and anything laying around). Apart from that he has lied and cheated everyone in the family to the point that nobody can stand him. After the theft from us we told him he wasn't welcome at our home and that has been a huge relief.

So now he lives with mommy and can't hold a job at 23 and basically lies to her to get money saying that he needs it for his part time job or gas etc etc blah blah lies lies. My wife and her mom seem to be in denial about what he is really doing with the money and his time but I know exactly what he is doing but I bite my lip on most of these issues because its not worth getting involved. I only chime in when it affects my wife. I could write a novel on on the situations we have dealt with...its bad.

"Edited for insanity of readers" lol
Found out he borrowed my car on a suspended license putting 173 miles in one day, then borrowed SIL car and totalled that. Found out from my family cop that he is driving suspended and lied about the crash details. Should I tell my wife the truth about it? (Suspended license and "at fault" accident)