Ms. Right? Or Ms. Right now? When to "settle"?

Matt · 04-16-2010, 01:42 PM

So my coworkers and I got into a conversation the other day about finding one's "soul mate". Some people believe that there is a "Ms. Right" or "Mr. Right" (for the ladies) out there for everyone. Others believe that that search is futile and will only lead to frustration.

What's your take on it? Do you think as long as you and your partner are happy, then you don't need to be "perfect" for each other?

Would you rather live a life alone, than "settle" for someone perhaps overweight or immature? Or would you rather settle for someone not so right for you, just to ensure you have a "teammate" in life, i.e. someone to help raise kids and complete a household? Is there a certain age or situation in which you think one goes from one choice to the other?

EDIT:

Here is the article that a coworker found that started the conversation. It's from a woman's perspective about why it's okay to settle.

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/23053553/

Jl lE lM · 04-16-2010, 02:03 PM

My EX girl and I were considered "Soul Mates"... Everyone told me that she was my Soul mate. Notice I put EX? It could be very hard to find your soul mate and falling in love with a very attractive girl doesnt mean she's your soul mate.

vipor · 04-16-2010, 02:06 PM

just ended a 3 year relationship. wasn't moving in the right direction, seemed to fizzle out. she was cute and makes good money. PEACE!

Jl lE lM · 04-16-2010, 02:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by vipor

just ended a 3 year relationship. wasn't moving in the right direction, seemed to fizzle out. she was cute and makes good money. PEACE!

Sounds very familiar...

ChrisSlicks · 04-16-2010, 02:49 PM

Just live the life of a rich bachelor, ala Charlie Harper. "Relationships" are overrated. If you don't have the money to be a rich bachelor then find a sugar mama that needs a toy boy.

theDreamer · 04-16-2010, 02:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ChrisSlicks

Just live the life of a rich bachelor, ala Charlie Harper. "Relationships" are overrated. If you don't have the money to be a rich bachelor then find a sugar mama that needs a toy boy.

370Zsteve · 04-16-2010, 02:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ChrisSlicks

Just live the life of a rich bachelor, ala Charlie Harper. "Relationships" are overrated. If you don't have the money to be a rich bachelor then find a sugar mama that needs a toy boy.

beat me to it, man. I say get a wife who cooks well and something on the side like Tila Tequila ftw

vipor · 04-16-2010, 03:08 PM

she needs to eat more IMO

370Zsteve · 04-16-2010, 03:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by vipor

she needs to eat more IMO

Uh, ok Vipor, here's more to your taste

Matt · 04-16-2010, 03:35 PM

I've been in a relationship for 7 years (ouch!), and while it's certainly not perfect...it's "okay". She takes care of her domestic responsibilities just fine, cleans, laundry, etc (I do the cooking because I enjoy it). She's not a 10 on my attractive scale, but she's still very attractive to me (in the 7's, I guess). I'm lucky if I rate that high on her scale, haha. We both have decent jobs

We've been engaged twice, but I've called it off both times due to me feeling that once she has the ring she sort of "gives up" on making our relationship better....like the engagement was a way of me saying everything is great, let's move on to the next step.

While her and I both admit that there's probably someone better out there for us, why should we risk the frustration and anger of having to deal with the possibility of finding people much worse instead?

I'm certainly not unhappy with our relationship, and neither is she. We both are sort of just "happy enough". The problem? She'd choose option 1 in this poll, and I would choose option 2 (for now).

cab83_750 · 04-16-2010, 03:53 PM

Readers Digest once had a quote....

"women are like fisherman. They complaint about the fish they caught, and brag about the one that got away."

HKYStormFront · 04-16-2010, 03:55 PM

^^^ that's a good way to put it

Lemers · 04-16-2010, 09:36 PM

Hate to be doom and gloom, but there are no soulmates. Relationships are only as good as what you put into them.

cowzrul · 04-16-2010, 09:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lemers

Relationships are only as good as what you put into them.

Celebrated 24 years just a few days ago. Marriage is work and you get out of it what you put into it.

PapoZalsa · 04-16-2010, 10:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 370Zsteve

beat me to it, man. I say get a wife who cooks well and something on the side like Tila Tequila ftw

NOT Tila Tequila!!!!!

There are better looking Asians out there.

View Poll Results: Wait for your soulmate or settle?
You'll never find someone who's perfect for you...just find someone who makes you happy "enough".	15	57.69%
I'd rather live and die alone then "settle" for someone who's not perfect for me.	11	42.31%
Voters: 26. You may not vote on this poll

04-16-2010, 01:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
Matt A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Augusta, GA Age: 41 Posts: 1,680 Drives: 2010 Avalanche LT Rep Power: 19	Ms. Right? Or Ms. Right now? When to "settle"? So my coworkers and I got into a conversation the other day about finding one's "soul mate". Some people believe that there is a "Ms. Right" or "Mr. Right" (for the ladies) out there for everyone. Others believe that that search is futile and will only lead to frustration. What's your take on it? Do you think as long as you and your partner are happy, then you don't need to be "perfect" for each other? Would you rather live a life alone, than "settle" for someone perhaps overweight or immature? Or would you rather settle for someone not so right for you, just to ensure you have a "teammate" in life, i.e. someone to help raise kids and complete a household? Is there a certain age or situation in which you think one goes from one choice to the other? EDIT: Here is the article that a coworker found that started the conversation. It's from a woman's perspective about why it's okay to settle. http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/23053553/ __________________ "Any man who can drive a 370z while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the Z the attention it deserves." Albert Einstein....modified. Last edited by Matt; 04-16-2010 at 01:46 PM.

04-16-2010, 02:06 PM	#3 (permalink)
vipor A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Euless, TX [ DFW ] Age: 42 Posts: 13,531 Drives: Nismo 09-0183 QAB Rep Power: 49	just ended a 3 year relationship. wasn't moving in the right direction, seemed to fizzle out. she was cute and makes good money. PEACE! __________________ 2009 NISMO # 0193 \| QAB \| Albums! \| 05.04.10 (Dynojet) 291.94hp/248.28tq Oil Cooler (DIY) \| Custom Headlights \| GTSPEC Braces \| F.I. Long Tube Headers

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ChrisSlicks A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: North East Posts: 6,203 Drives: 09 370Z Sport M6 Rep Power: 653	Just live the life of a rich bachelor, ala Charlie Harper. "Relationships" are overrated. If you don't have the money to be a rich bachelor then find a sugar mama that needs a toy boy. __________________ Hotchkis ARB \| Stillen CAI \| Art Pipes \| Berk CBE \| Stillen AP Racing Brakes \| AE Performance Oil Cooler \| BC Racing ER Coilovers \| Doran Control Arms

04-16-2010, 03:08 PM	#8 (permalink)
vipor A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Euless, TX [ DFW ] Age: 42 Posts: 13,531 Drives: Nismo 09-0183 QAB Rep Power: 49	she needs to eat more IMO __________________ 2009 NISMO # 0193 \| QAB \| Albums! \| 05.04.10 (Dynojet) 291.94hp/248.28tq Oil Cooler (DIY) \| Custom Headlights \| GTSPEC Braces \| F.I. Long Tube Headers

04-16-2010, 02:03 PM	#2 (permalink)
Jl lE lM Base Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Oceanside, CA Age: 38 Posts: 66 Drives: a Toyota. Rep Power: 15	My EX girl and I were considered "Soul Mates"... Everyone told me that she was my Soul mate. Notice I put EX? It could be very hard to find your soul mate and falling in love with a very attractive girl doesnt mean she's your soul mate.

04-16-2010, 03:35 PM	#10 (permalink)
Matt A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Augusta, GA Age: 41 Posts: 1,680 Drives: 2010 Avalanche LT Rep Power: 19	I've been in a relationship for 7 years (ouch!), and while it's certainly not perfect...it's "okay". She takes care of her domestic responsibilities just fine, cleans, laundry, etc (I do the cooking because I enjoy it). She's not a 10 on my attractive scale, but she's still very attractive to me (in the 7's, I guess). I'm lucky if I rate that high on her scale, haha. We both have decent jobs We've been engaged twice, but I've called it off both times due to me feeling that once she has the ring she sort of "gives up" on making our relationship better....like the engagement was a way of me saying everything is great, let's move on to the next step. While her and I both admit that there's probably someone better out there for us, why should we risk the frustration and anger of having to deal with the possibility of finding people much worse instead? I'm certainly not unhappy with our relationship, and neither is she. We both are sort of just "happy enough". The problem? She'd choose option 1 in this poll, and I would choose option 2 (for now). __________________ "Any man who can drive a 370z while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the Z the attention it deserves." Albert Einstein....modified.

04-16-2010, 03:53 PM	#11 (permalink)
cab83_750 Track Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: CA Posts: 887 Drives: 09 NISSAN 370Z Rep Power: 417	Readers Digest once had a quote.... "women are like fisherman. They complaint about the fish they caught, and brag about the one that got away."

04-16-2010, 03:55 PM	#12 (permalink)
HKYStormFront A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Greer, SC Posts: 14,954 Drives: 06 Frontier SE 6spd Rep Power: 52	^^^ that's a good way to put it __________________ Patrick // 06 Frontier 6spd Nismosis // Mods: Uprev Tuned @ Z1 Motorsports: 257whp & 292 ft lbs 09 Pontiac G8 GXP // M6 // Sunroof // Tint... For now

04-16-2010, 09:36 PM	#13 (permalink)
Lemers A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Izmir, Turkey Posts: 15,371 Drives: 2012 Traverse LTZ Rep Power: 52	Hate to be doom and gloom, but there are no soulmates. Relationships are only as good as what you put into them. __________________ 2010 Black Cherry Touring/Sport/Nav Now - 2012 Travese LTZ until I leave for Turkey

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