I have some time to kill, need some guidance.

bigaudiofanat · 02-06-2010, 12:29 AM

Well this is going to be a bit long but I will try to keep it as compressed as possible.

Let me start with saying that this is about a girl. One that I have known all my life pretty much grew up together at one point she use to babysit me "4 years older than me" Her mother and my mother use to go to school together.

As I said I have know this girl my entire life. Around 4 or 5 years ago I just started feeling REAL deep emotions for this girl. Not sexual but just actually love. It is not something that I made up just simply something I can not really explain pretty much love is the only way I can put it. So around 2 years ago I told her a few things that I was feeling "over a answering machine"

She called me back and told me that guys call her a lost cause because she is always busy with school work or other activities like working out or marathons. I really did not argue it and that conversation lasted like 2 minutes.

After that we really did not hang out that much nor did we really ever actually go out together and hang out.But lately the past 6 weeks we have.I have to say it has been a ton of fun and we have been surprisingly open with each other. She let me come with her line dancing and I was hooked on that so I now go every Friday with her and we talk on the way there dance and than talk on the way home. We also do other things such as today where we went out. Now what I have not told you at this point is that they are trying to sell there house. As soon as it is sold they are moving to Florida or somewhere close to there. This to me is like a time schedule that I have no idea when it will run out.

With the time we have been spending together it might be me but I think she is dropping some hints that she wants me to talk to her about how I feel. I can not be sure of them but I think that she is dropping hints and that she also knows how I feel. But as I said not sure. No girl has ever made me feel the way she does and I feel like telling her everything. But at the same time I do not want to scare her away or lose the wonderful time we are spending together.

Sort of why I am doing this is to vent a bit and maybe get some opinions.

jeepersnate · 02-06-2010, 12:41 AM

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Originally Posted by bigaudiofanat

Well this is going to be a bit long but I will try to keep it as compressed as possible.

Let me start with saying that this is about a girl. One that I have known all my life pretty much grew up together at one point she use to babysit me "4 years older than me" Her mother and my mother use to go to school together.

As I said I have know this girl my entire life. Around 4 or 5 years ago I just started feeling REAL deep emotions for this girl. Not sexual but just actually love. It is not something that I made up just simply something I can not really explain pretty much love is the only way I can put it. So around 2 years ago I told her a few things that I was feeling "over a answering machine"

She called me back and told me that guys call her a lost cause because she is always busy with school work or other activities like working out or marathons. I really did not argue it and that conversation lasted like 2 minutes.

After that we really did not hang out that much nor did we really ever actually go out together and hang out.But lately the past 6 weeks we have.I have to say it has been a ton of fun and we have been surprisingly open with each other. She let me come with her line dancing and I was hooked on that so I now go every Friday with her and we talk on the way there dance and than talk on the way home. We also do other things such as today where we went out. Now what I have not told you at this point is that they are trying to sell there house. As soon as it is sold they are moving to Florida or somewhere close to there. This to me is like a time schedule that I have no idea when it will run out.

With the time we have been spending together it might be me but I think she is dropping some hints that she wants me to talk to her about how I feel. I can not be sure of them but I think that she is dropping hints and that she also knows how I feel. But as I said not sure. No girl has ever made me feel the way she does and I feel like telling her everything. But at the same time I do not want to scare her away or lose the wonderful time we are spending together.

Sort of why I am doing this is to vent a bit and maybe get some opinions.

Alright buddy, don't worry about scaring her away. If the house is going to be sold and there is the chance that she will move away then you should sit her down, someplace quiet like a park, and tell her exactly what is on your mind. If she moves away, and you both end up together somehow, then it was meant to be. Things happen for a reason. If you don't tell her exactly how you feel then she will never know.

Nate

bigaudiofanat · 02-06-2010, 12:48 AM

Ya, I just have to figure out where to do it.

SoCal 370Z · 02-06-2010, 12:59 AM

Become involved in love as much as possible to the extent that you do not get in trouble (aka child). Love comes in varying degrees, and it is not until one understands such measures that one can experience true love. Confusion is a good thing...it challenges you to grow. Enjoy my friend!

Reaper42 · 02-06-2010, 02:53 AM

You need to tell her straight up how you feel, this isnt some girl you just met, or someone you have been friends with a couple years and think you have feelings for, (which by all means I am in no way agains people falling in true love after a couple weeks, i have seen it happened and it works) But this is someone you have known your whole life. And obviously someone who completes you. This could go a lot of ways, but the two biggest ones are, shes gunna tell you she feels the same way and that maybe not moving with her family and stayin to start a life with you is a possibility (dont know really how old you are) Or shes gunna say she doesnt feel the same way and just wants to be friends (which in my opinion, by the sound of things, would be a total ******** answer) and things might be awkward for a while and you wont beable to see her like you have been because she wont want you getting the wrong idea, but in the end she will always be around to be a friend because you have a lot of history.

IMHO be a man, grow some

, and tell her straigh up how you feel, and dont worry about where to do it, the most romantic places to do things are the most common in your everyday lives, otherwise your just goin out of your way when you dont need to, and women are turned off by that.

If you dont, shes gunna move, and instead of living your life with her, or upset she didnt love you back, your gunna be living life NOT knowing what could or couldnt happen and thats way worse.

BEST OF LUCK!

topcarbon · 02-06-2010, 07:11 AM

Tell her how you feel and grow from this experience.

If you tell her, you will know how she feels about you, if you dont, you will always wonder.

bigaudiofanat · 02-06-2010, 09:40 AM

You guys are right no other way to put it. I just need to tell her.

02-06-2010, 10:34 AM

Thank god this isnt my350z otherwise you would be getting torn up lol

Jjaden · 02-06-2010, 10:53 AM

Be straight up, often there is a 'window' of opportunity.

During this window you are being sized up as potential relationship material. After that window has passed you settle comfortably into the 'friend' category and will find it very difficult to progress.

If you tell her what 's on your mind and it doesn't work out, who cares, you will never have regrets.

If things go how you would like, you will have been rewarded for taking a chance.

It's a win-win situation...

bigaudiofanat · 02-06-2010, 10:53 AM

Ya I actually know which sites to post stuff like this up. the370z.com is actually a much more friendly place and not all about who can come up with the biggest insult.

Reaper42 · 02-06-2010, 07:17 PM

^ yea chicagoZ.com is pretty pathetic too. I cant even post up a for sale thread selling my seats, or put up a journal of my cars progress without some jag off commenting 5 times in a row. the370z.com all the way!

bigaudiofanat · 02-06-2010, 08:50 PM

Ya I agree, now I just have to go see her on a day that she has some time or just wait until this Friday.

frost · 02-06-2010, 09:17 PM

Grab life by the balls. You think you're gonna give a shit when you're 80 that some chick you knew when you were a kid rejected you?

Togo · 02-06-2010, 09:20 PM

All i got to say is make sure whatever you chose to do, you have no regrets. You don't want to ever have to look back later in life and think, hey what if this or that..

frost · 02-06-2010, 09:21 PM

I think togo was basically copying my comment :x

02-06-2010, 12:29 AM	#1 (permalink)
bigaudiofanat Car Audio Installer Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Magnolia DE Posts: 8,342 Drives: 2012 Infiniti G37x Rep Power: 853	I have some time to kill, need some guidance. Well this is going to be a bit long but I will try to keep it as compressed as possible. Let me start with saying that this is about a girl. One that I have known all my life pretty much grew up together at one point she use to babysit me "4 years older than me" Her mother and my mother use to go to school together. As I said I have know this girl my entire life. Around 4 or 5 years ago I just started feeling REAL deep emotions for this girl. Not sexual but just actually love. It is not something that I made up just simply something I can not really explain pretty much love is the only way I can put it. So around 2 years ago I told her a few things that I was feeling "over a answering machine" She called me back and told me that guys call her a lost cause because she is always busy with school work or other activities like working out or marathons. I really did not argue it and that conversation lasted like 2 minutes. After that we really did not hang out that much nor did we really ever actually go out together and hang out.But lately the past 6 weeks we have.I have to say it has been a ton of fun and we have been surprisingly open with each other. She let me come with her line dancing and I was hooked on that so I now go every Friday with her and we talk on the way there dance and than talk on the way home. We also do other things such as today where we went out. Now what I have not told you at this point is that they are trying to sell there house. As soon as it is sold they are moving to Florida or somewhere close to there. This to me is like a time schedule that I have no idea when it will run out. With the time we have been spending together it might be me but I think she is dropping some hints that she wants me to talk to her about how I feel. I can not be sure of them but I think that she is dropping hints and that she also knows how I feel. But as I said not sure. No girl has ever made me feel the way she does and I feel like telling her everything. But at the same time I do not want to scare her away or lose the wonderful time we are spending together. Sort of why I am doing this is to vent a bit and maybe get some opinions. __________________ Need help with car audio or electronics? Let me know!! Need Help Let Me Know Direct email address reimermatt@gmail.com Owner of: Dynamic Mobile Audio Follow me below https://www.facebook.com/Dynamicmobileaudio/

02-06-2010, 12:48 AM	#3 (permalink)
bigaudiofanat Car Audio Installer Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Magnolia DE Posts: 8,342 Drives: 2012 Infiniti G37x Rep Power: 853	Ya, I just have to figure out where to do it. __________________ Need help with car audio or electronics? Let me know!! Need Help Let Me Know Direct email address reimermatt@gmail.com Owner of: Dynamic Mobile Audio Follow me below https://www.facebook.com/Dynamicmobileaudio/

02-06-2010, 12:59 AM	#4 (permalink)
SoCal 370Z A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: US of A Posts: 2,842 Drives: Answers Rep Power: 33	Become involved in love as much as possible to the extent that you do not get in trouble (aka child). Love comes in varying degrees, and it is not until one understands such measures that one can experience true love. Confusion is a good thing...it challenges you to grow. Enjoy my friend! __________________ ( Click to show/hide ) Why I NEVER say NO to the Panda Lou Fusz!!!

02-06-2010, 02:53 AM	#5 (permalink)
Reaper42 A True Z Fanatic Join Date: May 2009 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 1,030 Drives: GetLucky370 Rep Power: 18	You need to tell her straight up how you feel, this isnt some girl you just met, or someone you have been friends with a couple years and think you have feelings for, (which by all means I am in no way agains people falling in true love after a couple weeks, i have seen it happened and it works) But this is someone you have known your whole life. And obviously someone who completes you. This could go a lot of ways, but the two biggest ones are, shes gunna tell you she feels the same way and that maybe not moving with her family and stayin to start a life with you is a possibility (dont know really how old you are) Or shes gunna say she doesnt feel the same way and just wants to be friends (which in my opinion, by the sound of things, would be a total ****** answer) and things might be awkward for a while and you wont beable to see her like you have been because she wont want you getting the wrong idea, but in the end she will always be around to be a friend because you have a lot of history. IMHO be a man, grow some , and tell her straigh up how you feel, and dont worry about where to do it, the most romantic places to do things are the most common in your everyday lives, otherwise your just goin out of your way when you dont need to, and women are turned off by that. If you dont, shes gunna move, and instead of living your life with her, or upset she didnt love you back, your gunna be living life NOT knowing what could or couldnt happen and thats way worse. BEST OF LUCK! __________________ Sponsor roll call: Get Lucky Brand \| TOYO TIRES \| Element Graphics \| Unique Fabrication Follow on fb- Jon Sackett and Instagram @GetLucky370 GetLucky370**

02-06-2010, 07:11 AM	#6 (permalink)
topcarbon Enthusiast Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: pto vallarta Posts: 273 Drives: vw gti Rep Power: 15	Tell her how you feel and grow from this experience. If you tell her, you will know how she feels about you, if you dont, you will always wonder. __________________

02-06-2010, 09:40 AM	#7 (permalink)
bigaudiofanat Car Audio Installer Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Magnolia DE Posts: 8,342 Drives: 2012 Infiniti G37x Rep Power: 853	You guys are right no other way to put it. I just need to tell her. __________________ Need help with car audio or electronics? Let me know!! Need Help Let Me Know Direct email address reimermatt@gmail.com Owner of: Dynamic Mobile Audio Follow me below https://www.facebook.com/Dynamicmobileaudio/

02-06-2010, 10:34 AM	#8 (permalink)
blue660r01 Guest Posts: n/a	Thank god this isnt my350z otherwise you would be getting torn up lol

02-06-2010, 10:53 AM	#9 (permalink)
Jjaden Track Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Ontario Posts: 821 Drives: 370Z/MAT SILVER/6MT Rep Power: 17	Be straight up, often there is a 'window' of opportunity. During this window you are being sized up as potential relationship material. After that window has passed you settle comfortably into the 'friend' category and will find it very difficult to progress. If you tell her what 's on your mind and it doesn't work out, who cares, you will never have regrets. If things go how you would like, you will have been rewarded for taking a chance. It's a win-win situation...

02-06-2010, 10:53 AM	#10 (permalink)
bigaudiofanat Car Audio Installer Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Magnolia DE Posts: 8,342 Drives: 2012 Infiniti G37x Rep Power: 853	Ya I actually know which sites to post stuff like this up. the370z.com is actually a much more friendly place and not all about who can come up with the biggest insult. __________________ Need help with car audio or electronics? Let me know!! Need Help Let Me Know Direct email address reimermatt@gmail.com Owner of: Dynamic Mobile Audio Follow me below https://www.facebook.com/Dynamicmobileaudio/

02-06-2010, 07:17 PM	#11 (permalink)
Reaper42 A True Z Fanatic Join Date: May 2009 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 1,030 Drives: GetLucky370 Rep Power: 18	^ yea chicagoZ.com is pretty pathetic too. I cant even post up a for sale thread selling my seats, or put up a journal of my cars progress without some jag off commenting 5 times in a row. the370z.com all the way! __________________ Sponsor roll call: Get Lucky Brand \| TOYO TIRES \| Element Graphics \| Unique Fabrication Follow on fb- Jon Sackett and Instagram @GetLucky370 GetLucky370

02-06-2010, 08:50 PM	#12 (permalink)
bigaudiofanat Car Audio Installer Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Magnolia DE Posts: 8,342 Drives: 2012 Infiniti G37x Rep Power: 853	Ya I agree, now I just have to go see her on a day that she has some time or just wait until this Friday. __________________ Need help with car audio or electronics? Let me know!! Need Help Let Me Know Direct email address reimermatt@gmail.com Owner of: Dynamic Mobile Audio Follow me below https://www.facebook.com/Dynamicmobileaudio/

02-06-2010, 09:17 PM	#13 (permalink)
frost Retired admin Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Winterfell Posts: 106,613 Drives: Your Wife Crazy Rep Power: 0	Grab life by the balls. You think you're gonna give a shit when you're 80 that some chick you knew when you were a kid rejected you? Last edited by frost; 02-06-2010 at 09:28 PM.

02-06-2010, 09:20 PM	#14 (permalink)
Togo A True Z Fanatic Join Date: May 2009 Location: E. Northport, NY Posts: 7,597 Drives: Stuff Rep Power: 657	All i got to say is make sure whatever you chose to do, you have no regrets. You don't want to ever have to look back later in life and think, hey what if this or that.. __________________ This will decimate all after you put about fifteen grand in it or more, and if we have to, overnight parts from Japan. Joe Clem and Koeppel Nissan

02-06-2010, 09:21 PM	#15 (permalink)
frost Retired admin Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Winterfell Posts: 106,613 Drives: Your Wife Crazy Rep Power: 0	I think togo was basically copying my comment :x

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