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Tyrell Tyson

I think you took what i said totally out of context and way too personally.

I never attacked you and your son, nor would i, re-read my post

again here is my point from my original post

"If my father had just paid for them both, sure i would have been real happy but i wouldn't understand the true value of working hard for your first big purchase, the very thing that gives you independence and freedom... when dad buys that for you it aint the same as when you buy it yourself"

We all know you love your kid to death, you sold your bike for him, thats hard for a man to do. I know everyone loves their kids to death and wants to give them the world, in the grand scheme of things giving your kid a car OR making them pay for it is not a life and death matter.

It would be smarter and much more beneficial for you and your kids if you put the down payment on it and make them pay off the rest, i don't see how hard that is to understand. He can work hard at school, college and still pay for his own car, i am doing exactly that...it ain't hard

This way you could have done what you originally came here to do, sell your beautiful bike, buy your 370z and just put the down payment on your sons car, it would be a win/win for everyone.


- Ty

1slow370

Ur decision to give a kid a car is ur decision but my parents made me get a job to get mine, never gave me any financial support, i've been working since i was 14 to have the things i want, I'm 20 drive a 370z, was honor roll, a blown knee killed football for me, and the only records I have are driving, and employment. I not only understand the value of working for what i want, i understand being poor and the unfairness that is present in our world that is the majority of us won't get handouts. Nobody knows your kid better than you and plenty of rich kids eventually go on to be rich and do well in there lives so don't think we are trying to tell you what to do it's just that it worked for my parents, it'll work for me. On a side note, I have a friend who had SOO much handed to him by his parents and he is never going anywhere in his life and makes terrible decisions because he isn't responsible for anything he does. If I ever did decide to buy my kid a car, i would make him pay at least half, or buy him a broken car and make him fix it(pass on the car gene ). There are valid points both ways on this.

Edit: just to as i like arguments, I'm on my 5th car, slated to by house when i turn 26, and have a stable future where the hell is my Jeep

speedoflife

People work for a reason. Everyone's reason is different. Some work for a house payment, food, and other bills. Some work to buy toys. Some support families. When someone works enough to have money to either A) buy a sports car or B) buy their child a car, the choice is up to them.
I understand what you are saying, but blanket statements such as these are exemplify ignorance. For example, how am I, in boarding school for high school, supposed to hold a job? It's literally impossible. I work every chance I get when I'm home because I am not given money, but there is no way I could afford a car payment on top of other expenses (clothes, books, and other things I buy).
Saying this to the OP is very disrespectful, despite how "thought provoking" it may be. You are forgetting a very important aspect of his actions: to make his son HAPPY. He knows his kid better than you, I, or any person on here, and he knows if his son deserves to have a car bought for him or not. You don't have to buy something yourself to understand what it means. I'm sure his son KNOWS that his dad sold his bike and sacrificed his own joy for his son, and that means something. This lesson goes beyond the simple "teach 'em young and teach 'em hard" theology, and instead dwells in a family, and doing what's best for them in one's OWN mind. One does not give someone a downpayment on a shirt for Christmas; one gives the person the shirt, because it makes THEM FEEL GOOD.
I understand what you are saying, but in no way do you have the right to preach to the OP about his generous, selfless, and meaningful decision.

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