Talk me off the (figurative) ledge

osbornsm

Hey all,

I don't generally put personal things on the forum. But it seems that my fellow 370z owners are the majority of my socialization during the work week.

Disclaimer: If you don't care about emotions please ignore this post.

anxiety and depression are ruling my life and pills don't always work

Have a shrink, have a buncha pills every day... and i'm still haunted by this monster that no one can see or hear. No it's not a person i'm seeing, it's a metaphor for the constantly prevalent emotional stress I endure.

Any bits of hope or encouragement are appreciated.

kenchan

wat's the trigger for your anxiety? maybe find ways to get rid of that? (i dont mean to eliminate people off the grid btw! )

osbornsm

Top ideas that came up without thinking much...

Anxiety triggers include most social engagements.
- social anxiety

Doesn't feel good to leave my house no matter where i'm going.
- lil agoraphobia

And to top it off, i have zero self esteem.
- So i don't take compliments well and think very poorly about myself.

But i'm looking at ways to avoid triggers, but i can't avoid life / triggers entirely.

Thank you for your thoughts kenchan, it means a lot to me.
~ Sean

kenchan

np. btw, there's no law that you must be social to everyone or have to be in public places. u can live a quiet personal life away from all the crowds and all the hype.

i personally hate social events too. i am not a shy person by any means, but i just dont like dealing with people if i dont have to. tired of all the bs they bring. im very vocal at work, but outside work and family, i dont really talk much beside some chitchat with my neighbors or people walking their dogs or something.

i think best might be to watch cnn or your local news and have general topics to talk about in your head if someone wants to chat. start off with weather, then maybe some news u saw, sports.. just have something ready to chat about so you're prepared. then that preparation might bring you confidence.

MagmaRed370z

I understand about social anxiety and sometimes I avoid the masses myself. DO you like physical activity? Perhaps a quick run or a brisk walk to your favorite part of town/park can alleviate some anxiety. When I am anxious I tend to pace, it helps me a lot. Just my 2 cents.

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hop in that sexy *** z of yours and take a drive around town with the windows down

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osbornsm

That's cute and all... but these are actual issues, not a bad hair day.

I'd be a lot more clever about my responses if i cared more.

FPenvy

rooftop had many of those same issues. I gave him some of my time and advice, now he travels the world with a smile.

your condition is just in your head. take control of it and own it.

social anxiety is typically just a lack of confidence, that produces failure, which then produces low self-esteem. all of which you said is going on.

like someone else said above....go get in you Z, have yourself a nice long drive, clear you head, then go get laid. nothing builds you back up like busting a nut my friend.

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Fuzzzy

IMO you need a different shrink. I would advise you to seek out someone competent in cognitive-behavioral therapy.

You may have to ask some tough questions to find one who is truly competent rather than blowing smoke. Do as much research as you can rather than picking someone out of the Yellow Pages.

Good luck.

MagmaRed370z

What he said.

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Zbrah

When you look good, you feel good. So my advice is get jacked. Join a hardcore gym in your area and get involved in the classes they offer. Whether it is mma, crossfit, powerlifting, or whatever your interest lies. Just get out there and get fit, it's a sure way to rebuilding your confidence in yourself.

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osbornsm

This is absolutely great advice. I need more "out of house" activities AND to build confidence.



Replied too. Ur a good guy.

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Mike

hang in there, you can do it. small steps.

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