Still think about my Ex-GF...

rooftop · 03-17-2015, 04:14 PM

Bad Boy · 03-17-2015, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Nick M

33yo checking in

I've had every conceivable type of relationship, I was engaged once, but never married.

The best thing I ever did for myself, was read this book:
The Rational Male: Rollo Tomassi: 9781492777861: Amazon.com: Books

Which introduced me to the various concepts that comprise the mindset usually referred to as the "Red Pill" or RP. No, its not pick up game crap. Its pretty involved into the psychology of men and women and attraction.

It will help clear your mind in the short term as you get past the break up.

He also has a blog, and a 2nd book. But start there.

There is no such thing as closure, honestly. When someone says they want closure, its more of way of saying I want another conversation for another chance.

You can't negotiate attraction. Do you really and truly want to convince someone why they should spend time with you, or would you rather meet someone who values you and the same way you value them?

The vast majority of relationships in life are about loss; parents, spouse, whomever. The sooner you learn to manage it and operate with your own personal frame and goals, the strong you will be and the more fulfilling your life will be.

Will definitely check this book out, thanks for the recommendation.

JC-Nismo · 03-17-2015, 11:41 PM

There's nothing wrong with venting or wanting to get this off your chest, it's normal for a man as young as you are To go through these things as we all did at some point. Thinking about someone is one thing, allowing it to consume you is another. Learn to love you, put you first and never put more energy into someone else than you put in yourself. If it's eating at you that bad, then get in contact with her and if she turns you down, then that'll be all the closure you need to move on, but don't waste your young, prime of your life years with a "what if"? Call her and get it off your chest if your really into her that much..............Or you can do like I would and get over pussy with more pussy

midlife · 03-19-2015, 08:52 PM

When I was your age many moons ago my girlfriend and I broke up and my Mother told me "girls are a dime a dozen and they're a million of them out there. Go find another." I did, several of them and guess who I'm married to now and have been for almost 19 years. That first girlfriend.

Zbrah · 03-19-2015, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Bad Boy

Hey guys,....

I work full time and go to school full time, but it seems as if ill never find a girl right for me. And I also feel like even if I did, I wouldnt have time, because of work and school...

Maybe you should work on this problem first, focus your energy on school and career then everything else will fall into place, just give it time man, stop thinking about her because she sounded like she's moved on.

kenchan · 03-20-2015, 09:00 AM

work retail. meet a lot of people.

GL

JARblue · 03-20-2015, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Bad Boy

I think I need some clarification? lol.

here lol

Tadpole · 03-20-2015, 11:05 AM

It's time to go post office bro!

Lick em, stick em, and send them on their way!!!

Zbrah · 03-20-2015, 11:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kenchan

work retail. meet a lot of people.

GL

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tadpole

It's time to go post office bro!

Lick em, stick em, and send them on their way!!!

Yeah, what these guys said.

Go get a job at the post office, meet new people

vtec to vvel · 04-13-2015, 07:48 PM

LOL dude really?? go back and read your posts/replies in other threads. it's a great big mystery as to why she left you. good for her.

JC-Nismo · 04-14-2015, 02:54 AM

Yeah he was acting like a douche bag for sure and attacking the entire club and everyone in it. Maybe Trips banged his girlfriend and that's why he went off like that, LMFAO................

MR.nismo · 04-16-2015, 01:23 AM

To the OP. You are only 24 years young. There is more in life than smashing grapes for one woman. Yea yea yea, I get it .....that one that I really love....
Dude, time heals and with your Z you can get more than one. You can get as many as you want but they would have to wait in line since you only have two seats. What I mean with this is, you will get over it, time will pass and you will be ok.

I'm going to tell you a secret... but you can not tell anyone.. OK... Promise not to tell.
When I was younger (20 some years ago) the only thing that I cared about loosing was my virginity. Once I lost it, I didn't care about anything else because I lost the only thing worth losing.

Now grow up, be a man and stop whining about a "puppy love feelings and a broken heart". This is a "manly" forum. If you want consolation then go to www.Igotdumped.com or www.Imlostwithouther.com.

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Tadpole A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: Lockhart, TX Posts: 1,082 Drives: 13 Nissan 370Z A7 Rep Power: 18	It's time to go post office bro! Lick em, stick em, and send them on their way!!! Zbrah and JC-Nismo like this. __________________ Takeda TR3009P Short Ram Intakes, Custom Dual Exhaust, X-Piped with 18" Resonators & TopSpeed Axle Backs. EVO-R Led Third Foglight,

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vtec to vvel A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Feb 2015 Location: 813 Posts: 3,915 Drives: 13 Z Rep Power: 502909	LOL dude really?? go back and read your posts/replies in other threads. it's a great big mystery as to why she left you. good for her. brancky3 likes this.

04-14-2015, 02:54 AM	#56 (permalink)
JC-Nismo A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Atlanta Posts: 1,244 Drives: 2011 Nismo 370z Rep Power: 13	Yeah he was acting like a douche bag for sure and attacking the entire club and everyone in it. Maybe Trips banged his girlfriend and that's why he went off like that, LMFAO................ Tadpole and falicfr like this.

03-17-2015, 11:41 PM	#48 (permalink)
JC-Nismo A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Atlanta Posts: 1,244 Drives: 2011 Nismo 370z Rep Power: 13	There's nothing wrong with venting or wanting to get this off your chest, it's normal for a man as young as you are To go through these things as we all did at some point. Thinking about someone is one thing, allowing it to consume you is another. Learn to love you, put you first and never put more energy into someone else than you put in yourself. If it's eating at you that bad, then get in contact with her and if she turns you down, then that'll be all the closure you need to move on, but don't waste your young, prime of your life years with a "what if"? Call her and get it off your chest if your really into her that much..............Or you can do like I would and get over pussy with more pussy

03-19-2015, 08:52 PM	#49 (permalink)
midlife Base Member Join Date: Aug 2014 Location: Jacksonville Florida Posts: 23 Drives: 012 red 370Z touring Rep Power: 11	When I was your age many moons ago my girlfriend and I broke up and my Mother told me "girls are a dime a dozen and they're a million of them out there. Go find another." I did, several of them and guess who I'm married to now and have been for almost 19 years. That first girlfriend.

04-16-2015, 01:23 AM	#57 (permalink)
MR.nismo Enthusiast Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Hackensack, NJ Age: 50 Posts: 373 Drives: 2014 Nismo Gun Metal Rep Power: 14	To the OP. You are only 24 years young. There is more in life than smashing grapes for one woman. Yea yea yea, I get it .....that one that I really love.... Dude, time heals and with your Z you can get more than one. You can get as many as you want but they would have to wait in line since you only have two seats. What I mean with this is, you will get over it, time will pass and you will be ok. I'm going to tell you a secret... but you can not tell anyone.. OK... Promise not to tell. When I was younger (20 some years ago) the only thing that I cared about loosing was my virginity. Once I lost it, I didn't care about anything else because I lost the only thing worth losing. Now grow up, be a man and stop whining about a "puppy love feelings and a broken heart". This is a "manly" forum. If you want consolation then go to www.Igotdumped.com or www.Imlostwithouther.com. __________________ Sarcasm and Orgasm are about the same thing. One is good....the other is better. Last edited by MR.nismo; 04-16-2015 at 01:31 AM.