Age Gap

m4a1mustang · 06-09-2011, 07:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Nismoracer

You guys dont think her parents might flip out? She has already dropped a hint that her dad may not be to happy bout it. Dont wanna see my boy on the 6 0'. We were talkin and dont understand the rush for her to intro her parents. Dont know if they plan a family outting or something.

Depends on her family I guess. Maybe certain cultures wouldn't be OK with it, maybe others would.

wstar · 06-09-2011, 08:45 AM

Well, there's evidence from real psych studies that on average it's better for a relationship if the woman is younger than the man, and practical experience seems to bear that out in the real world. Most of my girlfriends over time have been ~2-5 years younger than me (talking mostly when I was in my 20's). My most recent girlfriend was roughly a 10 year gap (23 vs 33 at the start). That one was really borderline in the after-analysis.

We had enough in common that it worked very well for the first 6 months or so, but then we moved in together and things went slowly downhill, and looking back on the reasons why, it was mostly about the age difference. It wasn't necessarily raw maturity, just things like differences in where you're at in life: what goals you're after, what kind of news about the world interests you, what level of cynicism you have about certain things, what your priorities are, level of experience with relationship issues, etc.

All in all it lasted about 2 years although I'd say after the first 1.5 years the last bit was wasted time, just sticking together out of habit for a bit. Based on coming out of that experience, at 35 now, I think my new bar would be an absolute minimum of 28, but hopefully someone 30+.

2ndChance · 06-09-2011, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by FL 4Motion

I'm telling you, she was like the young kim kardashian's sister.

Elysium · 06-09-2011, 02:03 PM

I've been with my fiancee now for 7 years and we started dating when she was 19, I was 30 at the time. It really depends on the individuals and the type of relationship that you have.

I say so long as it's legal.....all of your boys will be giving you high fives!

Rui Z · 06-09-2011, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by 2ndChance

I'm telling you, she was like the young kim kardashian's sister.

Dude, Khloe is fugly.

fullmonty · 06-09-2011, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Rui Z

Dude, Khloe is fugly.

^This

For what it's worth I seem to date women 3-5 years older than me. One because everyone I hang out with are about 3-5 years older than myself and two I really don't feel like dealing with some drunk 22 year old girl throwing up all over the place. I like girls who have figured out their limits and know what they want out of life

FL 4Motion · 06-10-2011, 01:34 AM

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Originally Posted by 2ndChance

I'm telling you, she was like the young kim kardashian's sister.

dude, she was 12, and you were 17. I know there's a some girls out there that mature early, look older etc, but come on, 12 is still a kid, and 17 is almost an adult.

there's plenty of fish in the sea, you can't possibly tell me that out of all the poon in the 15-19 yo range running around at the time, this 12 yo was the one who captured your heart/c0ck more than any other?

fullmonty · 06-10-2011, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by FL 4Motion

, this 12 yo was the one who captured your heart/c0ck more than any other?

For what it's worth I'm pretty sure he may of captured her.

eagle55 · 06-10-2011, 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by fullmonty

For what it's worth I'm pretty sure he may of captured her.

fullmonty · 06-11-2011, 12:18 AM

2ndChance · 06-11-2011, 02:44 AM

You can't bring pedobear pics if both of us were minors

And come on guys it was just a saying.. she was really mature, at 16 I was still a kid..

And it was like 6 years ago.. I date legal girls now.

eagle55 · 06-11-2011, 03:10 AM

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Originally Posted by fullmonty

wrong one

Alchemy · 06-11-2011, 08:52 AM

Im 31 & my girl is 23. Minus the fact that she always wants to go to the bar everything works pretty good. I always date chicks younger than me, it keeps your pimp hand strong.

fullmonty · 06-11-2011, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by 2ndChance

You can't bring pedobear pics if both of us were minors

And come on guys it was just a saying.. she was really mature, at 16 I was still a kid..

And it was like 6 years ago.. I date legal girls now.

We're just busting your chops, can't let a comment that good go by

FL 4Motion · 06-11-2011, 06:14 PM

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Elysium Base Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Ontario Posts: 133 Drives: 2013 GT-R, 2008 Sti Rep Power: 14	I've been with my fiancee now for 7 years and we started dating when she was 19, I was 30 at the time. It really depends on the individuals and the type of relationship that you have. I say so long as it's legal.....all of your boys will be giving you high fives!