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Originally Posted by jakoye
I've actually been married once before and it ended in divorce. She didn't take anything from me and we split amicably (still friends, as a matter of fact). You have a very biased and cynical view of the world and relationships. That will get you to the middle of no and where in life.
Not really, I am single, have no kids, and no debt, and am 24 and have a great career. Seems like it's doing pretty well so far. I am glad your divorce was atypical and everything worked out for you, though.
No man is an island and everyone needs love. I would advise you to reconsider your outlook and realize that just because Tom, **** and Harry all had bad marriages does not mean that you too will have a bad marriage. You are in charge of your own destiny. You make your own future. Maybe you're the rare kind of person that is happy being a hermit, but I doubt that. A hermit would never post on a public forum on the Internet.
I use technology as the 4th wall. I deal with nothing but people at work and it's nice to get away from people, or at least interact with them on MY terms. If I don't want to talk to you, it's just a little red box and an X and a click away. People are fine at work. That's my job. In my personal life, I don't really want to deal with it, though unless it's on my terms. I keep to myself in public, if I must go. Store, gym, personal trainer, and a couple of friends and that's enough to keep me quite content. Half the reason I am spending the $$ on a personal trainer is to break out of my 175# and 10% body-fat rut and go on up to 200# and maybe give up a % or two of lean-ness. That way less people will be inclined to approach me when I am at the store, etc. I know I think twice before approaching someone who looks like they could mash my head in if they felt like it, especially if they are in a hurry and look like they don't want to talk to anyone.
Give love a chance, son. It will surprise you and reward you in ways you can't even imagine.
Been there, done that, glad I learned my lesson before I took it further.
Now this ends our public service announcement for the evening.  |
I'm a very realistic person. Some people walk around thinking they are perfect and anything they do will somehow turn out crapping puppies and rainbows while everyone else meets with failure. I'm not that person. I am just as, apt to meet with a failure or success as the next person. Most people's marriages suck or suck until they fall apart. I don't want any part.
The whole ego-centric "It won't happen to me, mine will be fine" attitude is a big problem in this country. I wish less people thought that way. I'm not saying you should go suck a .45, I'm just saying that you aren't special. You aren't magical. You aren't any better than anyone else when it comes to the odds life has.
Also, yes, when I have to, I am very good with people. I was successful as a waiter in college, and in auto, telephone, and appliance sales before that. I know how to tell people just what they want to hear and ask them just what they want to be asked. Do I do that on here? Not often. I am tired of it by the end of work and quite frankly, it is so tiresome to "blend". Once I had a teacher ask me if I had some disorder. I didn't have the heart to tell her I just didn't give a damn about fitting in with all the margarita hoovering girls in my class and ticked them off on purpse so they would stop inviting me out, so I fabricated some story or another. She left me alone after that and I graduated and haven't spoken to them since. People just really wear me out for the most part and I don't want to stroke ego's and pat them on my time off. Which, as you might have guessed, is tonight
