Holy thread revival batman! You guys bring up good points. Society today is nowhere near the way it was especially with social media, dating apps, etc.
6 years later and I am still single. Granted, I may have had a couple of opportunities to commit to one, but I was not attracted to the person. There were some I was attracted to, but they were not into me and most took advantage of my kindness. I can't help being "nice" because that is how I am with everyone, and past experiences made me who I am today.
First and foremost, I despise being "hooked up" because the pressure stresses me out. All bad experiences. I also hate being stuck texting for hours on the phone everyday.
People always try to introduce me to someone in VN, and it's quite obvious they're trying to use me as a sponsor. The most recent was some 19 year old who had 3 FB profiles. Her English was terribad, insisted on talking no the phone, kept asking about my whereabouts, etc., in a span of 2-3 days. Found out she added one of my friends, and he said she was clearly desperate to move to the states. I blocked everything.
My aunt introduced me to several girls from VN. The girls were clingy or crazy. One belittled and questioned my opinions and shared our conversation with my aunt. Another is 37-38 today and never had a bf. She ignored/blocked me. Turns out she wasn't interested in guys. A couple years later, fearing she was getting too old, tried to contact me through my aunt. Last one ignored/blocked my request, but later kept trying to get a hold of me after regretting the decision. Honestly I don't think these girls were interested, but my aunt would lie about it. She said my cousin was close to one of the girls, and my she had no clue who she was. My aunt got way too nosy, so I blocked her and have not talked to her since.
My parents bugged me about my friend's cousin (22 at the time) from VN. We hung out a few times, but I couldn't get myself to love her. She would spend time with my parents on a weekly basis and bring gifts. When we got together with friends she was always upstairs with my mom. She's nice, but this was too weird. She was desperate for a green card, too.
A couple of months ago at my parent's house some girl was there. She was my friend's school friend. My dad sent me a screen cap of her FB profile and told me to talk to her. Heck no! That's not how it works. There was a concert last night, and my parents told me that she was joining them and kept pestering me all week while I was stressed out at work. Why the heck would I want to meet up and get to know a girl while hanging out with my parents!? Their constant involvement in my life is one reason why my ex left me, and why it complicates my personal life. My relatives tried to intervene to no avail.
Thursday I took the day off to run errands and get ready for a dinner date. This girl, who twice last month invited her friend to join in which I paid for everything, tried to pull this stunt again last minute. I finally spoke up about it, and it didn't end well. It was obvious what was going on, it's proof of what it is like today.
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