I (finally) did this, thanks for the DRL DIY!
I pulled the DRL connecter out and managed to get it apart and still yanked the tan wire off the pin so I'd recommend you just cut the tan and red wires 2-3" up from the plug and just leave the ends stuffed down plug empty sockets (like the red one below) so if it needed to be reversed you could just strip the end then and twist (solder if you're a pro) them back together
Was very quick once sure had proper red / tan wires (other reds and tans had light silver stripes on them) just focus on the plug lower right in my pic and you'll be fine
you definitely need the bladed plug to plug into the "on when engine on" source, no way to connect the wire just jamming it in there (not from lack of trying) but, luckily, since I'm a garage hoarder I dug into my electronics box-o-crap and found a match.
Went very quick so detailed the engine bay as I reassembled.
Thanks again!