Originally Posted by Davey

We both earn good money, and put a good chunk in a joint checking and savings, but we keep what's left - and it's ours to spend on whatever we want, whenever we want.

Therefore, it's my money, so I do what I want with it. I do occasionally ask her for advice, which she's pretty reluctant to give - because it's my money, and I should do what I want with it. Her usual answer is "If it will make you happy I think you should."

I'm sure if we just put 100% of our money in a joint account we'd take turns complaining about how pointless the other person's wants were, because I don't see a point in having more than 2 pairs of shoes and she doesn't see a point in having more than one car, but luckily we don't have to do that.