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Originally Posted by Haboob
Haha, I haven't really touched an Xbox stuff in a while!
And, that's the problem: I don't have any single friends anymore, or the one or two I do have don't do anything, but go out and drink etc. or we just go golfing.
I don't drink. I don't babysit (be a DD at the bar) either, because that never ends well.
Everything y'all are saying may be easy for an extroverted person, to just go out and start up a conversation with people, but it really isn't that easy. It's not a switch that can be turned on or off. I have tried, and it only works if it's sports - sports (talking and mainly participating) is the only thing I can turn on the "I don't care" factor for. If I could find a way to bleed that over into social situations, I would be ecstatic.
And apparently when people get married, they lose all of their single female friends.  Also, it's partly how I grew up. It's difficult to relate to people my age. Older people (my parents age) I don't have a problem with at all, since that's whom I grew up with. |
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Originally Posted by DIGItonium
Confidence, my friend. Practice it on girls that don't really matter to you. You just have to try your best to kick the habit of self doubt and negativity. It's okay. I'm not always in a happy mood either, but I try not so sulk alone at home unless I'm just too lazy to go anywhere.
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What DIGI said.
What you're doing isn't working. Try something else.
It's very simple. It's not easy, but it's not complicated. Step one- be in places where there are women. If the places you frequent do not have women, go to different places. Step two- talk to them. You will get shut down. Many times. Oh well, it's a numbers game. The more you talk to, the better your odds.
Here's the question- why not go talk to every random chick that catches your eye? Most likely, nothing will come of it. Which is exactly the same as not talking to her at all. But at least you've got the chance. you lose nothing by trying. Otherwise, by not saying anything, you've captured all of the downside with none of the potential for success. They're just people, dude.
Or take the advice given earlier about how to online date successfully.