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Originally Posted by kensin0429
Today I feel really down ... Broke up with my girl almost 2 months ago and I'm barely recovering ..but they are times when I just miss her so much that I want to give her call ...
Guys. I need some advice / ideas ... I've already done the following : get drunk / party / drive like a maniac / hookes / eat / bowling / holla at other women ...but the urge just dont go away .. I want to see her , I want to talk to her . Ahhhh
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It's your heart and it's your own thinking, it's difficult to go against the memory because yourself is recalling them.
It's tough.. at the beginning...
Time... give yourself some times....
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Originally Posted by kensin0429
To answer some of the questions above .
Yea the first month she did make some contact via text or call just to see how I'm doing ,and from tho's actions from her I react like a total fool , thinking we still have some chance and kept on pursuing it .
The more I do or say the further I push her away .
Second month was me trying to make lots of contact , didn't help the situation.
2 weeks ago was when I completely stop trying , you can say I gave up .
We broke up because I lied to her , regardless the reason. A lie is a lie . I didn't cheat on her or was there another person involved.
We were together for 9 months .
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She was probably just want to make sure are you doing ok... but yes, it's very easy to mislead you thinking there's a 2nd chance...
And there you go, you tried hard on the 2nd month, which, turned out the opposite.... which is normal, when her mind is blank...
One time a girl told me, imagine a soaking soap, the harder you squeeze it, the easier it will slip away.
Hold it gently and it'll stay in your hand.
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Originally Posted by kensin0429
thanks for the inputs and questions .
she would call/text me and tell me she still loves me , still thinks about me. But when I try to say get us back together , she says she doesn't know what she wants right now and the main focus is on her school . Most recent one was on 12-21-12. It was silly , that day morning she ask me what if today the world ends ? I say , I would tell my mom and dad that I love them , and wish to see her for one last time . Then I ask her the same thing , she says ,she would tell me she loves me and see me in the next life . Reason I keep pursuing it is because I get really confused . Think she doesn't want anything to do with me any more but keeps telling these things .
It was more of the act of lying with a little bit about what was lied about .
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At that moment, it's not about verbal... it's about how to sort things out yourself and herself, as two individual.
You better not think about her part but just focus on how to go on with your own life.
Fix up your own life first, get your life back on track and become a healthy person again, that's most important...
How can you mind other people business if you can't even look after your own...??
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Originally Posted by kensin0429
Onzedge and Chris. Thank you very much ! I really appreciate it !
And yes this 2 weeks I've been doing very good with my self. Focusing on my business and my school .
Just the little moments when that thought strike your mind and you just can't help but to think of the old times you know ? But yeah , I'm recovering at a good pace .
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dude... you are doing fine... and you WILL do fine....
I had a heart broken break-up, Dec 2011.
18 months relationship and she was the best I thought I could have... so much hope and a huge picture for the future....
Yes.. the first couple months of time was friggin' tough, I feel you bro...
My friend gave me huge support, I played tennis like crazy, try to do lots of things to fill up the free time but at the end there's always those moments I am by myself and those "stuffs" starts playing in my mind and it drove me crazy.. (And that's when I start staying up late til 4-5am cos I can't sleep)
Only after being so friggin' sad for a long while...
I realized life must go on and there's always better things to do than being a sad person sitting around wasting time.
There's not only this one girl you will see/meet in your whole lifespan... get up and move on and make yourself a better life.
Like many things, you gave your best effort, it works out, then it's good.
If it doesn't work out, you gave your best already, move on.
I once told myself, "alcheng, You treat her good, you did your part at best, you gave it all, but she didn't take it, alrighty, someone else in the future will do, now move on and enjoy your life...!!"
Treat yourself good... you are the only person who can truly appreciate yourself.
