Originally Posted by WAGAWAGA

what vivid said. This is my first manual car also, but I learned never to put in neutral unless you are at a complete stop (safety reasons). And from your description I would just rev match downshift (not heeltoe) from 4th to 3rd, then if you still need to slow down i'll heel toe to 2nd gear. Its really hard to heeltoe from 4th to 3rd @35, it can be done but i think its just better to downshift without hitting the brakes.